Capacity Quote by John Bradshaw

Recovery begins with embracing our pain and taking the risk to share it with others. We do this by joining a group and talking…

— John Bradshaw

“Generally speaking, most of our vital, spontaneous, instinctual life gets shamed. Children are shamed for being too rambunctious, for wanting things and for laughing…

— John Bradshaw

“A covert kind of sexual abuse occurs when Dad or Mom talk about sex in front of the children when the age level of…

— John Bradshaw

I know from my own clinical work that when people are beaten and hurt, they numb out so that they cant feel anymore.

— John Bradshaw

“Love-that which biologists, nervous about being misunderstood call "attachment"-fuels the bond between dog and master or mistress.”

— John Bradshaw

“(b) Boundary Violation. This involves children witnessing parents in sexual behavior. They may walk in on it because parents don’t provide closed or locked…

— John Bradshaw

“A toxically shamed person is divided within himself and must create a false-self cover-up to hide his sense of being flawed and defective. You…

— John Bradshaw

I define a 'good person' as somebody who is fully conscious of their own limitations. They know their strengths, but they also know their…

— John Bradshaw

“The ego defense of conversion transforms developmental needs into the need for something else. This could be food, money or excessive attention. In Max’s…

— John Bradshaw

“In fact, the most paradoxical aspect of neurotic shame is that it is the core motivator of the superachieved and the underachieved, the star…

— John Bradshaw

“If our primary caregivers are shame-based, they will act shameless and pass their toxic shame onto us. There is no way to teach self-value…

— John Bradshaw

Ego is to the true self what a flashlight is to a spotlight.

— John Bradshaw