“We “create our own reality” by how we choose to make meaning and interpret situations we encounter. Our story creates our feelings, the physiological “warning signs” that we are triggered, and our thoughts about ourselves and others. We are usually… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“Unfortunately, once we have reacted, there is no way to undo our impact.” — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“When our feelings are extremely high, we probably shouldn’t trust our initial perceptions or thoughts. If we have an intense, disproportionate reaction, it is… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“While I may not appreciate someone’s actions in the moment, it is useful to try to understand and relate to the possible underlying reasons for them. When I shift my focus away from my negative thoughts to think about the reasonable intent and unmet needs of the people whose behavior is the source of my trigger, I am more likely… — Kathy Obear Copy Share
“The ability to observe without evaluation is the highest form of intelligence.” ~ Jiddu Krishnamurti” — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“We can also use The Cycle as we anticipate how we may feel triggered in future situations. We can imagine how we might typically… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” ~ Carlos Castaneda” — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“What happened? What were you feeling and thinking? On the -10 to +10 Scale, how intense were your emotions? How did you react? (fight,… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“However, in my experience, it takes significant skill to be grounded enough to intentionally choose effective responses. And one of the biggest obstacles is… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“The young child asked, “Which one will win the fight?” And the grandfather replied, “Whichever one you feed.” If we replay and obsess about… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“Keep a list in your journal of all the ways you have responded productively in difficult situations, as well as the impact your response… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“We “create our own reality” by how we choose to make meaning and interpret situations we encounter. Our story creates our feelings, the physiological… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“If she had, instead, assumed that her colleague was being curious, possibly wanting to know what he needed to do to be selected for… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
