“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” ~ Carlos Castaneda” — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“Unfortunately, once we have reacted, there is no way to undo our impact.” — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“When our feelings are extremely high, we probably shouldn’t trust our initial perceptions or thoughts. If we have an intense, disproportionate reaction, it is… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“While I may not appreciate someone’s actions in the moment, it is useful to try to understand and relate to the possible underlying reasons for them. When I shift my focus away from my negative thoughts to think about the reasonable intent and unmet needs of the people whose behavior is the source of my trigger, I am more likely… — Kathy Obear Copy Share
“The ability to observe without evaluation is the highest form of intelligence.” ~ Jiddu Krishnamurti” — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“We can also use The Cycle as we anticipate how we may feel triggered in future situations. We can imagine how we might typically… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” ~ Carlos Castaneda” — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“What happened? What were you feeling and thinking? On the -10 to +10 Scale, how intense were your emotions? How did you react? (fight,… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“However, in my experience, it takes significant skill to be grounded enough to intentionally choose effective responses. And one of the biggest obstacles is… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“The young child asked, “Which one will win the fight?” And the grandfather replied, “Whichever one you feed.” If we replay and obsess about… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“Keep a list in your journal of all the ways you have responded productively in difficult situations, as well as the impact your response… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“We “create our own reality” by how we choose to make meaning and interpret situations we encounter. Our story creates our feelings, the physiological… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
“If she had, instead, assumed that her colleague was being curious, possibly wanting to know what he needed to do to be selected for… — Kathy Obear Copy Share Image
