Ross W. Greene

People don't scream or swear or pout or sulk when there's compatibility. But most growth occurs when there's incompatibility. When it comes…

— Ross W. Greene

School is very demanding these days.

— Ross W. Greene

“Half of teachers leave the profession within their first four years, and kids with behaviour challenges and their parents are cited as…

— Ross W. Greene

A lot of parents aren't exactly sure how to go about solving a problem with a kid in a way that's mutually…

— Ross W. Greene

We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up…

— Ross W. Greene

When there's a good fit between skills and expectations, there's what we call compatibility, and we would expect a good outcome. When…

— Ross W. Greene

Be your kid's collaborative partner, but also be a collaborative partner with the folks at school. Schools can be pretty unilateral too.…

— Ross W. Greene

“Challenging behavior occurs when the demands and expectations being placed upon a child outstrip the skills he has to respond adaptively.”

— Ross W. Greene

“Whether a kid is sulking, pouting, whining, withdrawing, refusing to talk, crying, spitting, screaming, swearing, running out of the classroom, kicking, hitting,…

— Ross W. Greene

“The school discipline program isn’t working for the kids who aren’t doing well and isn’t needed by the kids who are.”

— Ross W. Greene

“A kid shouldn't need a diagnosis to access help.”

— Ross W. Greene

If a solution isn't mutually satisfactory, it's not going to stick.

— Ross W. Greene

People still look askance at a kid in the supermarket who's pitching a fit and think the parent is not sufficiently in…

— Ross W. Greene

The idea that we can take this lump of clay and mold it into a form of our choosing is absolutely ludicrous.

— Ross W. Greene

We have forgotten that those skills on the more positive side of human nature have to be taught, have to be modeled,…

— Ross W. Greene

It's a whole lot more productive to be in problem-solving mode than it is to be in behavior modification mode.

— Ross W. Greene

You're your kid's partner, not the person who's pulling all the strings.

— Ross W. Greene

Solutions can't be imposed. That just fosters resentment.

— Ross W. Greene

If we're being unilateral, then communication does not happen, the relationship does not happen.

— Ross W. Greene

Kids are overprogrammed these days.

— Ross W. Greene

My advice to educators is collaborate with parents; they know a lot about their kids.

— Ross W. Greene

Challenging behavior is just a signal, the fever, the means by which the kid is communicating that he or she is having…

— Ross W. Greene

Over 18 years of us solving problems together, my daughter has shown me that she's got a good head on her shoulders,…

— Ross W. Greene

There is still quite the vibe out there that as a parent you have to be completely in control and in charge.

— Ross W. Greene

If we're sitting at dinner and there's no conversation going on because everybody's got their head someplace else in their iPhone, that's…

— Ross W. Greene