“The core belief in having to be strong enough, characteristic of many people who develop chronic illness, is a defence. The child… — Gabor Maté Ask for help Copy Share Image
“Everyone has had the experience of suddenly feeling intense physiological and psychological shifts internally at trading glances with another person; such shifts… — Gabor Maté Attention span Copy Share Image
“The addict is re-traumatized over and over again by ostracism, harassment, dire poverty, the spread of disease, the frantic hunt for a… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Compassionate curiosity about the self does not mean liking everything we find out about ourselves, only that we look at ourselves with… — Gabor Maté Compassion Copy Share Image
“Above everything Ralph aches for unity with the external feminine caritas - blessed, soul-saving, divine love. Divine here refers to not a… — Gabor Maté Divine love Copy Share Image
“While it is beneficial for a child to feel bad when anticipating a loss of connection with those who are devoted to… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“The contrasts between traditional multigenerational cultures and today's North American society are striking. In modern urbanized North America — and in other… — Gabor Maté American society Copy Share Image
“Just how important a close moment-to-moment connection between mother and infant can be was illustrated by a cleverly designed study, known as… — Gabor Maté Brain development Copy Share Image
“The purpose is not to justify or rationalize but to understand. Justification is another form of judgment every bit as debilitating as… — Gabor Maté Learning Copy Share Image
“Not only do we avert our eyes from the hardcore drug addict to avoid seeing ourselves; we do so to avoid facing… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
... While nervous tension may be a component of stress, one can be stressed without feeling tension. — Gabor Mate Components Copy Share Image
“Social support helps to ameliorate physiological stress. The close links between health and the social environment have been amply demonstrated. In the… — Gabor Maté Health Copy Share Image
“There is no evidence from anywhere in the world that harm reduction measures encourage drug use. Denying addicts humane assistance multiplies their… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“In attunement, it is the infant who leads and the mother who follows. “Where their roles differ is in the timing of… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“To expect an addict to give up her drug is like asking the average person to imagine living without all her social… — Gabor Maté Average person Copy Share Image
“I see so many situations where a child is in the midst of plenty, a virtual banquet spread out before him, but… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“Beauty Junkies is the title of a recent book by New York Times writer Alex Kuczynski, “a self-confessed recovering addict of cosmetic… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“The constellation of behaviours we call addiction is provoked by a complex set of neurological and emotional mechanisms that develop inside a… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Like addiction itself, anxiety will always find a target, but exists independently of its targets. Only when we become aware of it… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“The indispensable foundation of a rational stance toward drug addiction would be the decriminalization of all substance dependence and the provision of… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“The first reason why peer-oriented children have to harden emotionally is that they have lost their natural source of power and self-confidence… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“Society would have much to gain from decriminalization. On the immediate practical level, we would feel safer in our homes and on… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Environment does not cause ADD any more than genes cause ADD. What happens is that if certain genetic material meets a certain… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“A dramatic illustration of how environment shapes personality is the story of the Gilmore family. On January 17, 1978, in Utah, the… — Gabor Maté Death sentence Copy Share Image
A hurt is at the center of all addictive behaviors. . . . The wound may not be as deep and the… — Gabor Mate Ache Copy Share Image
