“Relationships weren’t easy for me, and for the first few years my abandonment issues were in full force, but with each one I learned. When I started to see my relationships as learning experiences, and inventoried them when they were… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“Goal setting works best when you have long-term goals and short-term goals in different areas of your life. Of course, you’re not going to… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“You both have been through a trying time, and you must face that a break will do each of you a world of good.… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“After a breakup, you may also feel physically and mentally incapacitated in some way. You have trouble sleeping, or you sleep too much. You… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“My therapist would later explain to me that “water seeks its own level” and that your partner’s flaws and issues usually go hand in… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“When you are asking why, when, how questions or trying to figure out how he or she could do what was done or how… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“Several of my clients, students, and readers have come to realize that they spent all their adult lives in relationships in which they were… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“The pain of heartache often comes in unpredictable episodes of intense pain that come and go. These episodes are called grief “spasms”—you feel overwhelmed… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“At first you may feel shock or disbelief that a loss has occurred or an inability to recognize that it was really a loss.… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“The first thing to know is that grief is not a straight line. It doesn’t happen in “stages,” as is commonly thought; it happens… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“Stop worrying about what is wrong with you. While there might be things about you that need improvement, that doesn’t mean that you are… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“Learning that “water seeks its own level,” I was able to understand what issues needed attention by observing the people I was attracting and… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“Don’t ask for justifications for present or past behavior, or say how much you’ve been hurt. Yes, there are things you want this person… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“Time does not heal all wounds. If it did, there would be no unresolved grief and no hurt from long ago that still upsets… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“After a breakup, anger is an appropriate reaction. When something has been taken away, people feel angry. While feeling the anger is okay, acting… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
“If you’re the person who is being asked to be friends, say no. If your ex is saying that he or she simply can’t… — Susan J. Elliott Copy Share Image
