Ask yourself Quote by Susan J. Elliott
““If you’re the person who is being asked to be friends, say no. If your ex is saying that he or she simply can’t be without you because you’re such a wonderful person, ask yourself this: Were you truly valued when you were together? Face it, your friends should treat you well, and if your ex has mistreated you, why would you want to count this person as a friend? Regardless of explanations and justifications, examine your ex’s behavior and ask yourself: Can you ever really trust a friend who would behave this badly toward you?””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Dance of Anger, Susan J. Elliott, 1995
Question the worth of a relationship when the other party claims you’re indispensable, and assess whether they truly value you beyond self‑interest.
In simple terms: Ask if the person truly values you or just needs you.
Key Takeaway
Prioritize relationships where you are respected.
Themes
self‑worth
boundaries
trust
relationships
self‑respect
Mood
cautious
reflective
empowering
Type
advice
self‑help
relationship
When to use this quote
- dating
- friendship
- breakup recovery
- personal boundaries
- self‑esteem assessment
Key Concepts
emotional intelligence
self‑care
relationship dynamics
Questions to Reflect On
- Do you feel safe and respected in this friendship?
- How can you set clear boundaries without guilt?
A Different Perspective
People may manipulate affection to control you, making trust assessment tricky.
