“Goal setting works best when you have long-term goals and short-term goals in different areas of your life. Of course, you’re not… — Susan J. Elliott Family Copy Share Image
“Stop worrying about what is wrong with you. While there might be things about you that need improvement, that doesn’t mean that… — Susan J. Elliott Stop worrying Copy Share Image
“The first thing to know is that grief is not a straight line. It doesn’t happen in “stages,” as is commonly thought;… — Susan J. Elliott Grief Copy Share Image
“My therapist would later explain to me that “water seeks its own level” and that your partner’s flaws and issues usually go… — Susan J. Elliott Dance Copy Share Image
“The pain of heartache often comes in unpredictable episodes of intense pain that come and go. These episodes are called grief “spasms”—you… — Susan J. Elliott Death Copy Share Image
“When you are asking why, when, how questions or trying to figure out how he or she could do what was done… — Susan J. Elliott Asking questions Copy Share Image
“After a breakup, you may also feel physically and mentally incapacitated in some way. You have trouble sleeping, or you sleep too… — Susan J. Elliott Grief Copy Share Image
“Learning that “water seeks its own level,” I was able to understand what issues needed attention by observing the people I was… — Susan J. Elliott Healthy relationship Copy Share Image
“At first you may feel shock or disbelief that a loss has occurred or an inability to recognize that it was really… — Susan J. Elliott Family members Copy Share Image
“Don’t ask for justifications for present or past behavior, or say how much you’ve been hurt. Yes, there are things you want… — Susan J. Elliott Habits Copy Share Image
“You both have been through a trying time, and you must face that a break will do each of you a world… — Susan J. Elliott Breakup Copy Share Image
“Several of my clients, students, and readers have come to realize that they spent all their adult lives in relationships in which… — Susan J. Elliott Books Copy Share Image
“If you’re the person who is being asked to be friends, say no. If your ex is saying that he or she… — Susan J. Elliott Ask yourself Copy Share Image
“The fact is, you need to accept that you have been with someone whose approach to life is simply incompatible with yours.… — Susan J. Elliott Different ways Copy Share Image
“Time does not heal all wounds. If it did, there would be no unresolved grief and no hurt from long ago that… — Susan J. Elliott Afraid of being hurt Copy Share Image
“Relationships weren’t easy for me, and for the first few years my abandonment issues were in full force, but with each one… — Susan J. Elliott Abandonment Issues Copy Share Image
“After a breakup, anger is an appropriate reaction. When something has been taken away, people feel angry. While feeling the anger is… — Susan J. Elliott Anger Copy Share Image
“One of the reasons I became a grief therapist was that my own grief work healed me. I had been an emotional… — Susan J. Elliott Afraid of being hurt Copy Share Image
