“Goal setting works best when you have long-term goals and short-term goals in different areas of your life. Of course, you’re not… — Susan J. Elliott Family Copy Share Image
“You both have been through a trying time, and you must face that a break will do each of you a world… — Susan J. Elliott Communication Copy Share Image
“After a breakup, you may also feel physically and mentally incapacitated in some way. You have trouble sleeping, or you sleep too… — Susan J. Elliott Grief Copy Share Image
“My therapist would later explain to me that “water seeks its own level” and that your partner’s flaws and issues usually go… — Susan J. Elliott Dance Copy Share Image
“When you are asking why, when, how questions or trying to figure out how he or she could do what was done… — Susan J. Elliott Asking questions Copy Share Image
“Several of my clients, students, and readers have come to realize that they spent all their adult lives in relationships in which… — Susan J. Elliott Books Copy Share Image
“The pain of heartache often comes in unpredictable episodes of intense pain that come and go. These episodes are called grief “spasms”—you… — Susan J. Elliott Death Copy Share Image
“At first you may feel shock or disbelief that a loss has occurred or an inability to recognize that it was really… — Susan J. Elliott Family members Copy Share Image
“The first thing to know is that grief is not a straight line. It doesn’t happen in “stages,” as is commonly thought;… — Susan J. Elliott Grief Copy Share Image
“Stop worrying about what is wrong with you. While there might be things about you that need improvement, that doesn’t mean that… — Susan J. Elliott Stop worrying Copy Share Image
“Learning that “water seeks its own level,” I was able to understand what issues needed attention by observing the people I was… — Susan J. Elliott Healthy relationship Copy Share Image
“Don’t ask for justifications for present or past behavior, or say how much you’ve been hurt. Yes, there are things you want… — Susan J. Elliott Habits Copy Share Image
“Time does not heal all wounds. If it did, there would be no unresolved grief and no hurt from long ago that… — Susan J. Elliott Afraid of being hurt Copy Share Image
“After a breakup, anger is an appropriate reaction. When something has been taken away, people feel angry. While feeling the anger is… — Susan J. Elliott Anger Copy Share Image
“If you’re the person who is being asked to be friends, say no. If your ex is saying that he or she… — Susan J. Elliott Ask yourself Copy Share Image
“Relationships weren’t easy for me, and for the first few years my abandonment issues were in full force, but with each one… — Susan J. Elliott Abandonment Issues Copy Share Image
“The fact is, you need to accept that you have been with someone whose approach to life is simply incompatible with yours.… — Susan J. Elliott Different ways Copy Share Image
“One of the reasons I became a grief therapist was that my own grief work healed me. I had been an emotional… — Susan J. Elliott Afraid of being hurt Copy Share Image
