Never hear what somebody thinks about you, you'll live longer. Hear that they're in pain. Don't hear their analysis. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them? — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
I find that my cultural conditioning leads me to focus attention on places where I am unlikely to get what I want.… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Most of us live in a Jackal world where we take turns using the other person as a waste basket for our… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Power-Over leads to punishment and violence. Power-With leads to compassion and understanding, and to learning motivated by reverence for life rather than… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC shows us a way of being very honest, but without any criticism, insults, or putdowns, and without any intellectual diagnosis implying… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
In nonviolent communication, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We do not look for compromise; rather, we seek to resolve the conflict to everyone's complete satisfaction. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
If I'm using Nonviolent Communication I never, never, never hear what somebody thinks about me. Never hear what somebody thinks about you,… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Focusing on the unmet need (not the judgment) is more likely to get the need met. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We're not taught to think in terms of needs. We don't make nice dead people when we're in touch with needs. Domination… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Very often, the way love is defined, it does violence to both people. It almost makes them a slave to the other.… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
The first step in healing is to put the focus on what's alive now, not what happened in the past. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Four D's of Disconnection: 1. Diagnosis (judgment, analysis, criticism, comparison); 2. Denial of Responsibility; 3. Demand; 4. 'Deserve' oriented language. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Some people use NVC to respond compassionately to themselves, some to create greater depth in their personal relationships, and still others to… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
If we ask two questions, we will see that punishment never works. First: What do we want the other person to do?… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We never really know what we want until after we get it. If after we get it, it makes life more miserable,… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
As long as I think I 'should' do it, I'll resist it, even if I want very much to do it. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Empathize with silence by listening for the feelings and needs behind it. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Plans to exact retribution are never going to make us safer. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
What I want in my life is compassion a flow between myself and others based on mutual giving from the heart. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Staying with empathy we allow speakers to touch deeper levels of themselves. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Often, instead of offering empathy, we have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
If you think ahead to what to say next - like how to fix it or make the person feel better - BOOM! Off… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
