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“For most people, having company for more than three of four days is a serious mistake, the equivalent to sawing a large hole in the roof and leaving all the doors and windows open in the middle of winter. Out of a desire to be helpful or the need to be kind, they let themselves in for prolonged…” quote by William Maxwell
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““For most people, having company for more than three of four days is a serious mistake, the equivalent to sawing a large hole in the roof and leaving all the doors and windows open in the middle of winter. Out of a desire to be helpful or the need to be kind, they let themselves in for prolonged spells of entertaining, forfeit their privacy and their easy understanding, knowing that the result will be an estrangement―however temporary―between husband and wife, and that nothing proportionate to this is to be gained by the giving up of beds, the endless succession of heavy meals, the afternoon drives. Either the human race is incurably hospitable or else people forget from one time to the next, as women forget the pains of labor, how weeks and months are lost that can never be recovered. The guest also loses―even the so-called easy guest who makes her own bed, helps with the dishes and doesn't require entertaining. She sees things no outsider should see, overhears whispered conversations about herself from two rooms away, finds old letters in books, and is sooner or later the cause of and witness to scenes that because of her presence do not clear the air. When she has left, she expects to go on being a part of the family she has stayed with so happily and for so long; she expects to be remembered; instead of which, her letters, full of intimate references and family jokes, go unanswered. She sends beautiful presents to the children at a time when she really cannot afford any extravagance and the presents also go unacknowledged. In the end her feelings are hurt, and she begins to doubt―quite unjustly―the genuineness of the family's attachment to her.””

William Maxwell

About This Quote

Source Book: The House of Breath by William Maxwell, 1965

Prolonged, can erode personal boundaries and cause resentment, harming both host and guest relationships.

In simple terms: Staying too long hurts everyone involved.

Key Takeaway

Set clear limits on visits.

Themes

relationships boundaries hospitality

Mood

reflective empathetic

Type

advice observational

When to use this quote

  • family gatherings
  • long-term guests
  • host-guest interactions
  • personal space
  • emotional well-being

Key Concepts

social dynamics emotional labor

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can hosts maintain warmth without losing privacy?
  • What signals indicate a guest should leave?
A Different Perspective

Guests may feel unappreciated despite good intentions.

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