Communication Quote by Valerie Young
““If you don’t feel heard, pay attention to how you may contribute to this dynamic: Do you use the more traditionally female mode of communication, which is to defer and wait your turn? That’s fine to do when the stakes are low. But there are situations where in order to be heard you have to forgo the usual rules, starting with the belief that you always have to follow the rules.””
About This Quote
Source Book: “The Dance of Connection” by Valerie Young, 2015
When you feel unheard, examine if you’re using deferential communication; sometimes breaking norms is needed to be heard.
In simple terms: Check if you’re too deferential; break norms to be heard.
Key Takeaway
Speak assertively when needed.
Themes
communication
assertiveness
gender dynamics
Mood
reflective
determined
Type
advice
insightful
When to use this quote
- team meetings
- negotiations
- public speaking
- conflict resolution
Key Concepts
social psychology
power dynamics
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you balance respect and assertiveness?
- When is it appropriate to break communication norms?
A Different Perspective
May alienate others if overused.
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