America Quote by Merle Shain
“The dream of romantic love is taken more seriously in North America than it is anywhere else in the world, which is why we believe in fidelity and why we believe in infidelity as well. It is also, of course, what makes our divorce rate as high as it is. Falling in love at first sight and instant gratification are part of the world in which we live, so there are people who believe adamantly in fidelity. They just don't believe in it for long.”
About This Quote
Source Essay: The New York Times, "The Dream of Romantic Love", 1995
Romantic love is idealized in North America, leading to strong beliefs in both fidelity and infidelity, which contributes to high divorce rates.
In simple terms: North America idealizes love, causing contradictory beliefs and high divorce rates.
Key Takeaway
Recognize cultural myths about love and set realistic expectations.
Themes
love
culture
marriage
fidelity
divorce
expectations
Mood
reflective
critical
thoughtful
Type
philosophical
observational
When to use this quote
- dating
- marriage counseling
- relationship education
- personal reflection
Key Concepts
romantic idealism
social norms
relationship dynamics
Questions to Reflect On
- How do cultural expectations shape your view of commitment?
- What realistic standards can you set for relationships?
A Different Perspective
Cultural narratives can overlook individual differences and personal agency.
![“To switch lads and lassies from quickie ceremonies back to the catered works in to-be-worm-only-once white dresses, the [wedding] garment producers have turned to sociology. Through statistics as carefully laid out as a bridal train, they are establishing a correlation showing a higher divorce…” quote by Malcolm Forbes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/024/malcolm-forbes-1510_bridal_to-switch-lads-and-lassies-from-quickie_2347027.jpg)
![“I'll smoke, I'll cough, I'll get the tumors, I'll die, deal? Thank you America. [salutes]” quote by Bill Hicks](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/3d2/bill-hicks-970_america_i-ll-smoke-i-ll-cough-i-ll-get-the-tumor_655.jpg)
