Sometimes it has to do with other longings that are much more existential. Sometimes you go elsewhere not because you are not… — Esther Perel Elsewhere Copy Share Image
“For [erotically intelligent couples], love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries… — Esther Perel Adventure Copy Share Image
It’s hard to feel attracted to someone who has abandoned her sense of autonomy. — Esther Perel Abandoned Copy Share Image
For some people, a one-night stand doesn't make any difference in a seven-year love affair. I don't believe the degree of betrayal… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
I want to engage people in an honest, enlightened, and provocative conversation about the nature of erotic desire and the intricacies of… — Esther Perel Challenges Copy Share Image
“The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships . . . which are basically a reflection of… — Esther Perel Life Copy Share Image
If you start to feel that you have given up too many parts of yourself to be with your partner, then one… — Esther Perel Ends Copy Share Image
“I regret to say that we of the FBI are powerless to act in cases of oral-genital intimacy, unless it has in… — Esther Perel Business Copy Share Image
On some level we trade passion for security, that's trading one illusion for another. It's a matter of degree. We can't live… — Esther Perel Constant Copy Share Image
“When the impulse to share becomes obligatory, when personal boundaries are no longer respected, when only the shared space of togetherness is… — Esther Perel Kiss of death Copy Share Image
“I do believe that the emphasis on egalitarian and respectful sex—purged of any expressions of power, aggression, and transgression—is antithetical to erotic… — Esther Perel Men and women Copy Share Image
“If intimacy grows through repetition and familiarity, eroticism is numbed by repetition. It thrives on the mysterious, the novel, and the unexpected.… — Esther Perel Desire Copy Share Image
“She’s beautiful, too, did I mention that? She lives the life I didn’t live. I feel middle-age and middle-class around her. Nothing… — Esther Perel Life Copy Share Image
In dating, if you say no, your lover goes on to the next person. In marriage, if you say no, the person… — Esther Perel Dating Copy Share Image
“The French psychologist Jacques Salomé talks about the need to develop a personal intimacy with one’s own self as a counterbalance to… — Esther Perel Love Copy Share Image
“The smaller we feel in the world, the more we need to shine in the eyes of our partner.” — Esther Perel Love Copy Share Image
Are you asking a question because you want to know the answer or are you asking the question because you want your… — Esther Perel Answers Copy Share Image
For most couples who come to me - especially in the aftermath of the revelation of an affair, when they are in… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
“Acknowledging the third has to do with validating the erotic separateness of our partner. It follows that our partner's sexuality does not… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
The very ingredients that nurture love - mutuality, reciprocity, protection, worry, responsibility for the other - are sometimes the very ingredients that… — Esther Perel Desire Copy Share Image
Real sexual conversations are enormously intimate and beautiful because they reveal so much about who we are and what we want. What… — Esther Perel Beautiful Copy Share Image
“It is always astonishing how love can strike. No context is love-proof, no convention or commitment impervious. Even a lifestyle which is… — Esther Perel Human heart Copy Share Image
You know what happens to sex in marriage? Instead of inviting desire, you monitor it. Especially men: You let her sleep late,… — Esther Perel Desire Copy Share Image
It's our imagination that's responsible for love, not the other person. — Esther Perel Imagination Copy Share Image
