Acceptance doesn't mean predictability. Sex isn't always for 11 at night - - it's also 'meet at a hotel room at noon'.… — Esther Perel Acceptance Copy Share Image
“Sexual desire does not obey the laws that maintain peace and contentment between partners. Reason, understanding, compassion, and camaraderie are the handmaidens… — Esther Perel Compassion Copy Share Image
Romantics value intensity over stability. Realists value security over passion. But both are often disappointed, for few people can live happily at… — Esther Perel Cybersecurity Copy Share Image
Eroticism thrives in the space between the self and the other. — Esther Perel Identity Copy Share Image
At this point, we are living one of the greatest experiments in humankind - to create something that has, throughout history, been… — Esther Perel Best friend Copy Share Image
Sex is about where you can take me, not what you can do to me. — Esther Perel Can do Copy Share Image
Trouble looms when monogamy is no longer a free expression of loyalty but a form of enforced compliance. — Esther Perel Compliance Copy Share Image
Love is at once an affirmation and a transcendence of who we are. — Esther Perel Affirmation Copy Share Image
Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery. — Esther Perel Desire Copy Share Image
“In this world there are only two tragedies. One is getting what one wants, and the other is not getting it.” When” — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
I do consider even going to prostitutes, or seeing a hooker or an escort, as having an emotional component, even if it's… — Esther Perel Emotion Copy Share Image
The vast majority of unfaithful people are experiencing a conflict between their values and their behavior, and that is the mess of… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
In desire, there must be some small amount of tension. And that tension comes with the unknown, the unpredictable. You can close… — Esther Perel Amount Copy Share Image
“At one time you pursued Stephanie with great creativity, but no more. There’s an assumption—and you’re not alone—that we need only pursue… — Esther Perel Creativity Copy Share Image
“Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery. Love likes to shrink the distance that exists between me and you, while… — Esther Perel Desire Copy Share Image
Secrecy fuels erotic intensity because it makes you feel like you're doing something that is entirely yours. It gives you the sense… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
“despite its widespread denunciation, infidelity has a tenacity that marriage can only envy.” — Esther Perel Betrayal Copy Share Image
Modern infidelity is different than traditional infidelity and sits on top of the romantic ideal that you find "the one" and that… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
Today, our sexuality is an open-ended personal project; it is part of who we are, an identity, and no longer merely something… — Esther Perel Identity Copy Share Image
Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another… — Esther Perel Elsewhere Copy Share Image
Most of us will get turned on at night by the very same things that we will demonstrate against during the day… — Esther Perel Erotic Copy Share Image
We used to moralize; today we normalize, and performance anxiety is the secular version of our old religious guilt. — Esther Perel Anxiety Copy Share Image
To look at infidelity from the point of view of sex is a complete narrowing of the phenomenon. There's a reason that… — Esther Perel Bible Copy Share Image
