“For [erotically intelligent couples], love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
In dating, if you say no, your lover goes on to the next person. In marriage, if you say no, the person… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
You know what happens to sex in marriage? Instead of inviting desire, you monitor it. Especially men: You let her sleep late,… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“Big data analyst Seth Stephens-Davidowitz reports in the New York Times that Google searches for “sexless marriage” outnumber searches related to any… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
At this point, we are living one of the greatest experiments in humankind - to create something that has, throughout history, been… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“despite its widespread denunciation, infidelity has a tenacity that marriage can only envy.” — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Affairs can be powerful detonators. They can invigorate a marriage that's flat, jolt people out of years of complacency. Fear of loss… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
The power of transgression is the archetypal, foundational story of the Bible. We want to break our own codes - sometimes of… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“When I ask her if her open marriage isn’t painful, she answers, “Sometimes it is. Sometimes it’s not. But monogamy—which we never… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“Terry Real, who has written extensively about men in relationships, describes a particular “unholy triangle” between “the powerful, irresponsible, and/or abusive father,… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Even a good marriage leaves people with longings for certain things their marriage will never be. So, do they accept that, make… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
In committed sex, in marriage, people don't feel the need to seduce or to build anticipation - - that's an effort they… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Marriage isn't meant to make you happy - it's there because it gives you a life in which you can find happiness. — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Sometimes it has to do with other longings that are much more existential. Sometimes you go elsewhere not because you are not liking the… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“For [erotically intelligent couples], love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life:… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
It’s hard to feel attracted to someone who has abandoned her sense of autonomy. — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
For some people, a one-night stand doesn't make any difference in a seven-year love affair. I don't believe the degree of betrayal is always… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
I want to engage people in an honest, enlightened, and provocative conversation about the nature of erotic desire and the intricacies of intimacy and… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships . . . which are basically a reflection of your sense… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
If you start to feel that you have given up too many parts of yourself to be with your partner, then one day you… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“I regret to say that we of the FBI are powerless to act in cases of oral-genital intimacy, unless it has in some way… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
On some level we trade passion for security, that's trading one illusion for another. It's a matter of degree. We can't live in constant… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“When the impulse to share becomes obligatory, when personal boundaries are no longer respected, when only the shared space of togetherness is acknowledged and… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“I do believe that the emphasis on egalitarian and respectful sex—purged of any expressions of power, aggression, and transgression—is antithetical to erotic desire for… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
