When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from, but the person we have ourselves… — Esther Perel Partners Copy Share Image
“It takes courage to push yourself to places that you have never been before…to test your limits…to break through barriers. And the… — Esther Perel Courage Copy Share Image
For me, the constitutive element of an affair is the secrecy. It is the secrecy that leads to the lying, to the… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
Mystery is not always about travelling to new places, it is about looking with new eyes. — Esther Perel Eye Copy Share Image
“Given the transient nature of life, given its ceaseless flux, there is more than a hint of arrogance in the assumption that… — Esther Perel Life Copy Share Image
Success, to me, is helping one person or many people counter the isolation and pseudoconnectivity of our lives by boosting their ability… — Esther Perel Ability Copy Share Image
One of the most amazing abilities of sexuality is to momentarily transcend the borders of Self into something that is no longer… — Esther Perel Ability Copy Share Image
“We're walking contradictions, seeking safety and predictability on one hand and thriving on diversity on the other.” — Esther Perel Human nature Copy Share Image
“Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery. Love likes to shrink the distance that exists between me and you, while… — Esther Perel Desire Copy Share Image
“Oscar Wilde wrote, “In this world there are only two tragedies. One is getting what one wants, and the other is not… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Our partner's sexuality does not belong to us. It isn't just for and about us, and we should not assume that it… — Esther Perel Assuming Copy Share Image
There is no sex without a cue. People who date have their cues at home, before they meet. You think about where… — Esther Perel Bars Copy Share Image
“Big data analyst Seth Stephens-Davidowitz reports in the New York Times that Google searches for “sexless marriage” outnumber searches related to any… — Esther Perel Marriage Copy Share Image
“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. —Anaïs Nin” — Esther Perel Death Copy Share Image
“You would think that the safety of an established base would make it easier to take these kinds of risks, but no.… — Esther Perel Family Copy Share Image
Our consumer economy peddles the notions "romantic consumerism" of finding "the one," of being the one. It's the narcissistic enhancement of, "I'm… — Esther Perel Commitment Copy Share Image
“What I can tell you,” she says, “is that his kindness makes me feel safe, but when I think about who I… — Esther Perel Kindness Copy Share Image
Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex. For men, sex is the connection. Sex is man's language of intimacy — Esther Perel Connections Copy Share Image
“So, like a forgotten fire, a childhood can always flare up again within us. —Gaston Bachelard” — Esther Perel Children Copy Share Image
“Eventually, if desire withers, monogamy too easily slides downward into celibacy. When this happens, fidelity becomes a weakness rather than a virtue.” — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“In our consumer culture, we always want the next best thing: the latest, the newest, the youngest. Failing that, we at least… — Esther Perel Consumerism Copy Share Image
Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness. — Esther Perel Autonomy Copy Share Image
I think love is often a bit selfish, even before we had consumerism. That's not new. A consumer society gives you the… — Esther Perel Choices Copy Share Image
