It’s hard to feel attracted to someone who has abandoned her sense of autonomy. — Esther Perel Abandoned Copy Share Image
“We no longer get work out of our children; today we get meaning.” — Esther Perel Children Copy Share Image
Eroticism thrives in the space between the self and the other. — Esther Perel Eroticism Copy Share Image
There's something very full in knowing that your partner accepts you as is. — Esther Perel Accepting Copy Share Image
“The “symptom” theory goes as follows: An affair simply alerts us to a preexisting condition, either a troubled relationship or a troubled… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
“I got rid of my motorcycle when Jimmy was born. I’m not allowed to die in a bike crash anymore.” — Esther Perel Jimmy Copy Share Image
In my community there were two groups of people, There were the ones who did not die and the ones who came… — Esther Perel Community Copy Share Image
“despite its widespread denunciation, infidelity has a tenacity that marriage can only envy.” — Esther Perel Betrayal Copy Share Image
“In this world there are only two tragedies. One is getting what one wants, and the other is not getting it.” When” — Esther Perel Tragedies Copy Share Image
The attraction of dating is that you don't take yes for granted - - you're fully engaged, there's seductiveness, tension. — Esther Perel Attraction Copy Share Image
“So, like a forgotten fire, a childhood can always flare up again within us. —Gaston Bachelard” — Esther Perel Childhood Copy Share Image
“The smaller we feel in the world, the more we need to shine in the eyes of our partner.” — Esther Perel Love Copy Share Image
Affairs can be powerful detonators. They can invigorate a marriage that's flat, jolt people out of years of complacency. Fear of loss… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
In desire, there must be some small amount of tension. And that tension comes with the unknown, the unpredictable. You can close… — Esther Perel Amount Copy Share Image
Modern love is the enterprise that everyone wants to be a part of, yet there's a fifty percent divorce rate in round… — Esther Perel Business Copy Share Image
A # peer relationship is one where the partners experience an affectionate, companionate coupledom. They are friends. They are the product of… — Esther Perel Affectionate Copy Share Image
“Frank Jude Boccio, author of Mindfulness Yoga, to think about as he leaves the session: “We bitch about our difficulties along the… — Esther Perel Books Copy Share Image
If you start to feel that you have given up too many parts of yourself to be with your partner, then one… — Esther Perel Ends Copy Share Image
Most of us will get turned on at night by the very same things that we will demonstrate against during the day… — Esther Perel Erotic Copy Share Image
“It takes courage to push yourself to places that you have never been before…to test your limits…to break through barriers. And the… — Esther Perel Courage Copy Share Image
“Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery. Love likes to shrink the distance that exists between me and you, while… — Esther Perel Desire Copy Share Image
I say no to a double standard that men can roam and women must stay put at home. I say no to… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
The whole notion of one person being enough for everything gets instantly challenged when you start to talk with somebody about wanting… — Esther Perel Enough Copy Share Image
“For [erotically intelligent couples], love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries… — Esther Perel Adventure Copy Share Image
For some people, the experience of sexuality is that they are entirely inside their body, but others feel they have totally transcended… — Esther Perel Ability Copy Share Image
The vast majority of unfaithful people are experiencing a conflict between their values and their behavior, and that is the mess of… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
People grow up learning to be silent about their sexuality, so where are they going to learn to talk about it when… — Esther Perel All kinds Copy Share Image
“You would think that the safety of an established base would make it easier to take these kinds of risks, but no.… — Esther Perel Distance relationship Copy Share Image
“I’ve been a sexual underachiever my whole life, and I resent Warren for feeling entitled to something that I won’t allow for… — Esther Perel Entitled Copy Share Image
“We're walking contradictions, seeking safety and predictability on one hand and thriving on diversity on the other.” — Esther Perel Contradictions Copy Share Image
When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from, but the person we have ourselves… — Esther Perel Gaze Copy Share Image
Trouble looms when monogamy is no longer a free expression of loyalty but a form of enforced compliance. — Esther Perel Compliance Copy Share Image
Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness. — Esther Perel Autonomy Copy Share Image
There is no neediness in desire ... there is no caretaking in desire. Caretaking is mightily loving, [but] it's a powerful anti-aphrodisiac. — Esther Perel Aphrodisiac Copy Share Image
We used to moralize; today we normalize, and performance anxiety is the secular version of our old religious guilt. — Esther Perel Anxiety Copy Share Image
In dating, if you say no, your lover goes on to the next person. In marriage, if you say no, the person… — Esther Perel Dating Copy Share Image
“Neutralizing each other’s complexity affords us a kind of manageable otherness.” — Esther Perel Manageable Copy Share Image