“Q: Are there any secrets to long-lasting relationships? A: Infidelity. Not the act itself, but the threat of it. For Proust, an… — Esther Perel Betrayal Copy Share Image
A # peer relationship is one where the partners experience an affectionate, companionate coupledom. They are friends. They are the product of… — Esther Perel Affectionate Copy Share Image
There is no neediness in desire ... there is no caretaking in desire. Caretaking is mightily loving, [but] it's a powerful anti-aphrodisiac. — Esther Perel Aphrodisiac Copy Share Image
We know desire is rooted in absence and yearning. What you don't have is often ten times richer than what you actually… — Esther Perel Absence Copy Share Image
Affairs can be powerful detonators. They can invigorate a marriage that's flat, jolt people out of years of complacency. Fear of loss… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
Most affairs do die a natural death. Today, you look at your partner's phone to find out the weather, and you find… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
The power of transgression is the archetypal, foundational story of the Bible. We want to break our own codes - sometimes of… — Esther Perel Bible Copy Share Image
The whole notion of one person being enough for everything gets instantly challenged when you start to talk with somebody about wanting… — Esther Perel Enough Copy Share Image
“We don't like to be intimate alone. Some couples take this one step further, confusing intimacy with control. What passes for care… — Esther Perel Romance Copy Share Image
There is not one person who can fulfill all your needs. You may choose a partner who is your intellectual equal, and… — Esther Perel Adventure Copy Share Image
The kiss that you have never given is just as powerful as hours of actual lovemaking. The erotic isn't just what is… — Esther Perel Hours Copy Share Image
“We no longer get work out of our children; today we get meaning.” — Esther Perel Children Copy Share Image
Women - - and men - - need to understand that a woman's transition is often much longer. The caretaker must leave… — Esther Perel Caretakers Copy Share Image
“When I ask her if her open marriage isn’t painful, she answers, “Sometimes it is. Sometimes it’s not. But monogamy—which we never… — Esther Perel Marriage Copy Share Image
Today, we turn to one person to provide what an entire village once did: a sense of grounding, meaning, and continuity. At… — Esther Perel Committed Copy Share Image
“It takes two people to create a pattern, but only one to change it.” — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“The “symptom” theory goes as follows: An affair simply alerts us to a preexisting condition, either a troubled relationship or a troubled… — Esther Perel Troubled relationship Copy Share Image
“Polarity Management: Identifying and Managing Unsolvable Problems” — Esther Perel Management Copy Share Image
When there is nothing left to hide, there is nothing left to seek. — Esther Perel Funny Copy Share Image
“I’ve been a sexual underachiever my whole life, and I resent Warren for feeling entitled to something that I won’t allow for… — Esther Perel Life Copy Share Image
What is the relationship between love and desire? How do they relate, and how do they conflict? ... Therein lies the mystery… — Esther Perel Conflict Copy Share Image
“Terry Real, who has written extensively about men in relationships, describes a particular “unholy triangle” between “the powerful, irresponsible, and/or abusive father,… — Esther Perel Abusive father Copy Share Image
The attraction of dating is that you don't take yes for granted - - you're fully engaged, there's seductiveness, tension. — Esther Perel Attraction Copy Share Image
Even a good marriage leaves people with longings for certain things their marriage will never be. So, do they accept that, make… — Esther Perel Accepting Copy Share Image
People grow up learning to be silent about their sexuality, so where are they going to learn to talk about it when… — Esther Perel All kinds Copy Share Image
