Children Quote by John Bradshaw

“Toxic shame results from the unexpected exposure of vulnerable aspects of a child’s self. This exposure takes place before the child has any ego…

— John Bradshaw

“Crushing the toddler’s autonomy and purposeful will is the most damaging form of shaming that can be done. When autonomy is crushed, toxic shame…

— John Bradshaw

“During school age, the bright, shame-based child will attempt to develop inhuman ego defenses or defending scripts, such as perfectionism, blaming, criticizing, righteousness or…

— John Bradshaw

“Along with many other professionals, I’ve come to the conclusion that shame is much more likely to lead to destructive and hurtful behaviors than…

— Brené Brown

“SHAME-BASED MARRIAGE AND PARENTAL MODELS It is obvious that a major source of toxic shame is the family system and its multigenerational patterns of…

— John Bradshaw

“SHAME-BASED FAMILY RULES Each family system has several categories of rules. There are rules about celebrating and socializing, rules about touching and sexuality, rules…

— John Bradshaw

“I found out that “Shame is a reaction to other people’s criticism, an acute personal chagrin at our failure to live up to our…

— Paul G. Hiebert

“With the child already shame-based, the feeling of discouragement takes over the whole personality. As the shame-based child forms her primitive conscience, shame becomes…

— John Bradshaw

“NEED SHAME BINDS When these needs are neglected, children are given the message that their needs are not important, and they lose a sense…

— John Bradshaw

“When children have shame-based parents, they identify with them. This is the first step in the child’s internalizing shame because the children carry their…

— John Bradshaw

“When parents are shame-based and needy, they are unable to take over the mirroring narcissistic function for the child. Furthermore, the fact that the…

— John Bradshaw

“As children, Other-blamers were likely exposed to developmental or attachment trauma, such as abusive, shaming, rejecting, or neglectful parenting. Parents who are substance abusers…

— Bandy X Lee