Shame Quote by John Bradshaw

“ PATTERNS OF THE “SHY” What else is common among people who identify themselves as “shy?” Below are the results of a survey that…

— Jonathan Berent

“If our primary caregivers are shame-based, they will act shameless and pass their toxic shame onto us. There is no way to teach self-value…

— John Bradshaw

“A person with internalized shame believes he is inherently flawed, inferior and defective.Such a feeling is so painful that defending scripts (or strategies) are…

— John Bradshaw

“Toxic shame, with its more-than-human, less-than-human polarization, is either inhuman or dehumanizing. The demand for a false self to cover and hide the authentic…

— John Bradshaw

“The agony of this chronic stage of being cannot be endured for long. At the deepest level, toxic shame triggers our basic automatic defensive…

— John Bradshaw

“Toxic shame results from the unexpected exposure of vulnerable aspects of a child’s self. This exposure takes place before the child has any ego…

— John Bradshaw

“The major problem in our lives is to decide and clarify our responsibilities. To truly be committed to a life of honesty, love and…

— John Bradshaw

“Arnold was scapegoated from the moment he set foot in the school. He was laughed at, made fun of and ridiculed by one group…

— John Bradshaw

“Where are you, Adam? According to the book of Genesis, Adam went into hiding after the fall. By trying to be more than human,…

— John Bradshaw

“Unfortunately, accomplishments do not reduce internalized shame. In fact, the more one achieves, the more one has to achieve. Toxic shame is about being;…

— John Bradshaw

“Crushing the toddler’s autonomy and purposeful will is the most damaging form of shaming that can be done. When autonomy is crushed, toxic shame…

— John Bradshaw

“Toxic shame, the shame that binds us, is experienced as the all-pervasive sense that “I am flawed and defective as a human being.” Toxic…

— John Bradshaw