Child Quote by John Bradshaw
““Alice Miller has summed up these rules under the title “Poisonous Pedagogy” in her book For Your Own Good. These rules state: 1. Adults are the masters of the dependent child. 2. They determine in godlike fashion what is right and what is wrong. 3. The child is held responsible for the parents’ anger. 4. The parents must always be shielded. 5. The child’s life-affirming feelings pose a threat to the autocratic adult. 6. The child’s will must be “broken” as soon as possible. 7. All this must happen at a very early age so that the child “won’t notice” and will therefore not be able to expose the adult.””
About This Quote
Source Book: For Your Own Good, 1994
Describes abusive parenting patterns that manipulate and silence children.
In simple terms: Adults can dominate and harm children through control.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and break toxic family dynamics.
Themes
abuse
control
childhood trauma
power dynamics
Mood
somber
critical
Type
analytical
educational
When to use this quote
- therapy sessions
- parenting workshops
- educational seminars
- support groups
Key Concepts
psychology
family systems
Questions to Reflect On
- What signs indicate a “poisonous pedagogy” in your upbringing?
- How can you safely confront these patterns?
A Different Perspective
Changing deep‑rooted family patterns can be extremely difficult.
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