Habits Quote by Boyé Lafayette de Mente
““An example of en maku wo haru is the tatemae (tah-tay-my), “facade” or “public position,” characteristic of Japanese behavior, which is nothing other than a smoke screen designed to conceal honne (hohn-nay), “real thoughts” or “real intentions.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Japanese Culture and Behavior, 1995
People often hide true feelings behind a polite front, using a public façade to mask private intentions.
In simple terms: Public front hides true thoughts.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and question façades.
Themes
culture
communication
authenticity
Mood
reflective
analytical
Type
philosophical
cultural
When to use this quote
- business meetings
- personal relationships
- diplomacy
- conflict resolution
Key Concepts
tatemae
honne
social masks
Questions to Reflect On
- When have you presented a tatemae?
- What motives lie behind your public position?
A Different Perspective
Facades can protect privacy and maintain harmony, not just deceive.
