Anything Quote by Alice Dreger
“You want a child who never makes you anything but proud? Please. Don't bother taking on parenthood if you can't handle the fact that sometimes your child's identity won't be what you would have chosen. And if you want to prevent a child from ever suffering? Well, then don't have a child. No one is born into the world never to suffer.”
About This Quote
Parenthood inevitably involves accepting a child's independent identity and the inevitability of suffering; trying to control or shield them completely is impossible.
In simple terms: Accepting a child's autonomy and inevitable pain.
Key Takeaway
You cannot prevent a child's suffering or dictate their identity.
Themes
parenthood
identity
suffering
acceptance
control
Mood
reflective
somber
thoughtful
Type
philosophical
advice
When to use this quote
- raising a child
- coping with unexpected traits
- dealing with loss
Key Concepts
autonomy
responsibility
human condition
Practical Applications
- parenting counseling
- philosophical discussions on suffering
Questions to Reflect On
- How does accepting a child's autonomy change your expectations?
- What does it mean to embrace inevitable suffering?
