“Being abandoned through the neglect of our developmental dependency needs is the major factor in becoming an adult child. We grow up;… — John Bradshaw Becoming an adult Copy Share Image
“Unconditional love and acceptance of self seems to be the hardest task for all humankind. Refusing to accept our “real selves,” we… — John Bradshaw Human suffering Copy Share Image
“The agony of this chronic stage of being cannot be endured for long. At the deepest level, toxic shame triggers our basic… — John Bradshaw Guilt Copy Share Image
“Where are you, Adam? According to the book of Genesis, Adam went into hiding after the fall. By trying to be more… — John Bradshaw Copy Share Image
“The more dysfunctional the system, the more closed and rigid are the roles it assigns. In families that are chemically, sexually or… — John Bradshaw Dysfunction Copy Share Image
“The fantasy bond is an illusion of connectedness that the child creates in relation to the primary caregiver, who is shaming her.… — John Bradshaw Bonding Copy Share Image
“If a cat falls out of a high-rise building or a tall tree, it has another trick available: forming a “parachute” by… — John Bradshaw Cats Copy Share Image
“PEER GROUP SHAMING I remember Arnold. He was a brilliant accountant. He had been viciously shamed in high school. His presenting problem… — John Bradshaw Finding fault Copy Share Image
“3. Blame. Whenever things don’t turn out as planned, blame yourself or others. Blame is another defensive cover-up for shame. Blame maintains… — John Bradshaw Copy Share Image
“Family secrets can go back for generations. They can be about suicides, homicides, incest, abortions, addictions, public loss of face, financial disaster,… — John Bradshaw Family Copy Share Image
“Alice Miller writes: There are large numbers of people who suffer from narcissistic disorders, who often had sensitive and caring parents from… — John Bradshaw Gifts and talents Copy Share Image
“Richard Bandler suggested that one of the major blocks to creativity was the feeling of knowing you are right. When we think… — John Bradshaw Creativity Copy Share Image
“Emotions are a form of energy in motion. They signal us of a loss, a threat or a satiation. Sadness is about… — John Bradshaw Anger and fear Copy Share Image
“THE DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY RULES 1. Control or Chaos. One must be in control of all interactions, feelings and personal behavior at all… — John Bradshaw Children Copy Share Image
“Anger is considered especially bad. Anger is one of the seven deadly sins. These sins send you to hell. In its most… — John Bradshaw Anger Copy Share Image
“In the past, when dogs’ functions were mostly rural, it was accepted that they were intrinsically messy and needed to be managed… — John Bradshaw Animal Copy Share Image
“the narcissistic personality disorder are: Grandiosity, extreme self-involvement, and lack of interest and empathy for others, in spite of the pursuit of… — John Bradshaw Jealousy Copy Share Image
“5. The “No Talk” Rule. This rule prohibits the full expression of any feeling, need or want. In shame-based families, the members… — John Bradshaw Communication Copy Share Image
