We can never make anyone do anything against their will without enormous consequences. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
If we don't tell people about our needs, it is much less likely they will be met. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Every message, regardless of form or content, is an expression of a need. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Staying with empathy we allow speakers to touch deeper levels of themselves. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Never hear what a jackal-speaking person thinks, especially what they think about you. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
You can't make your kids do anything. All you can do is make them wish they had. And then, they will make… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Never hear what somebody thinks about you, you'll live longer. Hear that they're in pain. Don't hear their analysis. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When we make mistakes, we can use the process of NVC mourning and self-forgiveness to show us where we can grow instead… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Make your goal to attend to your underlying needs and to aim for a resolution so satisfying that everyone involved has their… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
If we wish to express anger fully, the first step is to divorce the other person from any responsibility for our anger. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he'll jump in. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC suggests behind every action, however ineffective, tragic, violent, or abhorrent to us, is an attempt to meet a need. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Four D's of Disconnection: 1. Diagnosis (judgment, analysis, criticism, comparison); 2. Denial of Responsibility; 3. Demand; 4. 'Deserve' oriented language. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC can be effectively applied at all levels of communication and in diverse situations: intimate relationships, families, schools, organizations and institutions, therapy… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
If you are a jackal, you will try to reassure. Jackals try to fix people in pain. They can't stand pain, but… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Every moment each human being is doing the best we know at that moment to meet our needs. We never do anything… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
If I'm using Nonviolent Communication I never, never, never hear what somebody thinks about me. Never hear what somebody thinks about you,… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Children need far more than basic skills in reading, writing, and math, as important as those might be. Children also need to… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We are responsible for what we hear other people say and for how we act. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
In our culture, most of us have been trained to ignore our own wants and to discount our needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them? — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Punishment also includes judgmental labeling and the withholding of privileges. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Empathize with silence by listening for the feelings and needs behind it. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When we understand the needs that motivate our own and others behavior, we have no enemies. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Getting in touch with unmet needs is important to the healing process. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When we listen for their feelings and needs, we no longer see people as monsters. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
The most important use of NVC may be in developing self-compassion. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Unless we as social change agents come from a certain spirituality, we're likely to create more harm than good. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Our survival as a species depends on our ability to recognize that our well-being and the well-being of others are in fact… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Interpretations, criticisms, diagnoses, and judgments of others are actually alienated expressions of our unmet needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
In these long-standing conflicts, I find that most cases it gets resolved in about twenty minutes after each side can tell me… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We do not look for compromise; rather, we seek to resolve the conflict to everyone's complete satisfaction. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
How I choose to look at any situation will greatly affect whether I have the power to change it or make matters… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
I believe that the most joyful and intrinsic motivation human beings have for taking any action is the desire to meet our… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
What I want in my life is compassion a flow between myself and others based on mutual giving from the heart. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Staying with empathy we allow speakers to touch deeper levels of themselves. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Often, instead of offering empathy, we have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
If you think ahead to what to say next - like how to fix it or make the person feel better - BOOM! Off… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Two questions help us see why we are unlikely to get what we want by using punishment... The first question is: What do I… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Praise and reward create a system of extrinsic motivations for behavior. Children (and adults) end up taking action in order to receive the praise… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Everything we do is in service of our needs. When this one concept is applied to our view of others, we'll see that we… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
