Plans to exact retribution are never going to make us safer. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Violence comes from the belief that other people cause our pain and therefore deserve punishment. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When we fear punishment, we focus on consequences, not on our own values. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you understand what you need and what you value. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When I recognize I've got anger, then I realize it's because I have a need that's not being met. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Criticism, analysis, and insults are tragic expressions of unmet needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Compliments and praise, for their part, are tragic expressions of fulfilled needs — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Always listen to what people need rather than what they are thinking about us. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
The spirituality that we need to develop for social change is one that mobilizes us for social change. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Unless we as social change agents come from a certain kind of spirituality, we're likely to create more harm than good. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We are compassionate with ourselves when we are able to embrace all parts of ourselves and recognize the needs and values expressed… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When people hear needs, it provokes compassion. When people hear diagnoses, it provokes defensiveness and attack. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We know the speaker has received adequate empathy when a. we sense a release of tension, or b. the flow of words… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When it comes to giving advice, never do so unless you've first received a request in writing, signed by a lawyer. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Two things distinguish nonviolent actions from violent actions. First, you don't see an enemy and second, your intention is not to make… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC self-forgiveness: connecting with the need we were trying to meet when we took the action that we now regret. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
You're going to lose it when you follow the world "feel" with the words "because I think". Any time you are thinking,… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Our ability to offer empathy can allow us to stay vulnerable, defuse potential violence, help us hear the word 'no' without taking… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
All that has been integrated into NVC has been known for centuries about consciousness, language, communication skills, and use of power that… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Conventional compliments often take the form of judgments however positive, and are sometimes offered to manipulate the behavior of others. NVC encourages… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
In nonviolent communication, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Children need far more than basic skills in reading, writing, and math, as important as those might be. Children also need to… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Every moment each human being is doing the best we know at that moment to meet our needs. We never do anything… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Very often, the way love is defined, it does violence to both people. It almost makes them a slave to the other.… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Conflicts, even of long standing duration, can be resolved if we can just keep the flow of communication going in which people… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
“Now, with regard to the people who have done things we call "terrorism," I'm confident they have been expressing their pain in… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Any evaluation which implies rightness or wrongness is a tragic, suicidal expression of an unmet need. Tragic, first because it decreases our… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
I'm going to show you a technology today which takes insults and criticisms out of the airwaves. (Marshall puts on giraffe ears)… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We never really know what we want until after we get it. If after we get it, it makes life more miserable,… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
What I want in my life is compassion a flow between myself and others based on mutual giving from the heart. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Staying with empathy we allow speakers to touch deeper levels of themselves. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Often, instead of offering empathy, we have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
If you think ahead to what to say next - like how to fix it or make the person feel better - BOOM! Off… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Two questions help us see why we are unlikely to get what we want by using punishment... The first question is: What do I… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Praise and reward create a system of extrinsic motivations for behavior. Children (and adults) end up taking action in order to receive the praise… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Everything we do is in service of our needs. When this one concept is applied to our view of others, we'll see that we… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
