Learning is too precious to be motivated by coercive tactics. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Enemy images are the main reason conflicts don't get resolved. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When we fear punishment, we focus on consequences, not on our own values. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Violence comes from the belief that other people cause our pain and therefore deserve punishment. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Plans to exact retribution are never going to make us safer. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Always listen to what people need rather than what they are thinking about us. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you understand what you need and what you value. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
In a Giraffe institution, the head nurse job would be to serve the nurses, not to control them. Teachers are there to… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Our survival as a species depends on our ability to recognize that our well-being and the well-being of others are in fact… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Unless we as social change agents come from a certain spirituality, we're likely to create more harm than good. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Interpretations, criticisms, diagnoses, and judgments of others are actually alienated expressions of our unmet needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
In these long-standing conflicts, I find that most cases it gets resolved in about twenty minutes after each side can tell me… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he'll jump in. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Four D's of Disconnection: 1. Diagnosis (judgment, analysis, criticism, comparison); 2. Denial of Responsibility; 3. Demand; 4. 'Deserve' oriented language. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC suggests behind every action, however ineffective, tragic, violent, or abhorrent to us, is an attempt to meet a need. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC enhances inner communication by helping us translate negative internal messages into feelings and needs. Our ability to distinguish our own feelings… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
The number one reason that we don't get our needs met, we don't express them. We express judgments. If we do express… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Our ability to offer empathy can allow us to stay vulnerable, defuse potential violence, help us hear the word 'no' without taking… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
You're going to lose it when you follow the world "feel" with the words "because I think". Any time you are thinking,… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Conventional compliments often take the form of judgments however positive, and are sometimes offered to manipulate the behavior of others. NVC encourages… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
All that has been integrated into NVC has been known for centuries about consciousness, language, communication skills, and use of power that… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
In nonviolent communication, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Children need far more than basic skills in reading, writing, and math, as important as those might be. Children also need to… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When I recognize I've got anger, then I realize it's because I have a need that's not being met. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Criticism, analysis, and insults are tragic expressions of unmet needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Compliments and praise, for their part, are tragic expressions of fulfilled needs — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
All moralistic judgments, whether positive or negative, are tragic expressions of unmet needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
As we learn to speak from the heart we are changing the habits of a lifetime. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
The cause of anger lies in our thinking - in thoughts of blame and judgment. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC requires us to be continually conscious of the beauty within ourselves and other people. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
You don't have to be brilliant. It's enough to become progressively less stupid. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Empathize with silence by listening for the feelings and needs behind it. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When we understand the needs that motivate our own and others behavior, we have no enemies. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Getting in touch with unmet needs is important to the healing process. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When we listen for their feelings and needs, we no longer see people as monsters. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
The most important use of NVC may be in developing self-compassion. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Staying with empathy we allow speakers to touch deeper levels of themselves. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Never hear what a jackal-speaking person thinks, especially what they think about you. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
What I want in my life is compassion a flow between myself and others based on mutual giving from the heart. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Staying with empathy we allow speakers to touch deeper levels of themselves. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Often, instead of offering empathy, we have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
If you think ahead to what to say next - like how to fix it or make the person feel better - BOOM! Off… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Two questions help us see why we are unlikely to get what we want by using punishment... The first question is: What do I… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Praise and reward create a system of extrinsic motivations for behavior. Children (and adults) end up taking action in order to receive the praise… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Everything we do is in service of our needs. When this one concept is applied to our view of others, we'll see that we… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
