Character trait Quote by Tom Butler-Bowdon
““When the first force, social feeling and community expectation, is ignored or affronted, the person concerned will reveal certain aggressive character traits: vanity, ambition, envy, jealousy, playing God, or greed; or nonaggressive traits: withdrawal, anxiety, timidity, or absence of social graces. When any of these forces gains the upper hand, it is usually because of deep-seated feelings of inadequacy. Yet the forces also create an intensity or tension that can give tremendous energy.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The 7 Secrets of Effective People, Tom Butler-Bowdon, 2010
When social expectations are ignored, people reveal aggressive or non‑aggressive traits driven by deep insecurity, creating intense energy.
In simple terms: Ignoring social norms triggers hidden traits and tension.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and manage underlying insecurities.
Themes
social pressure
personality
insecurity
energy
Mood
reflective
cautious
Type
analytical
insightful
When to use this quote
- workplace
- relationships
- leadership
- conflict resolution
- personal growth
Key Concepts
psychology
social dynamics
Questions to Reflect On
- What unmet social need fuels your behavior?
- How can you channel this tension constructively?
A Different Perspective
These traits can be destructive if unchecked.
