Steven Stosny

“Relationships automatically develop resentment when selfish and petty concerns become more important than the emotional connection between you. If”

— Steven Stosny

“psychological sense of spirituality is a feeling of union and transcendence, motivated by compassion, awe, or joy.”

— Steven Stosny

“He hurts you because he loves you inadequately. When he senses your emotional needs, he feels like a failure as a husband.…

— Steven Stosny

“we are hard-wired to respond to the needs of loved ones, and we fail to do so at our emotional peril.”

— Steven Stosny

“Love him enough to demand that he find it in his heart to value and respect you, according to his deepest values.”

— Steven Stosny

“Specifically, he should: Initiate at least six hugs per day, holding each for at least six seconds.* Stop what he’s doing and…

— Steven Stosny

“A love relationship that isolates one or both parties from parents, friends, community, and spiritual connection is doomed to failure.”

— Steven Stosny

“improve, appreciate, connect, or protect.”

— Steven Stosny

“Everyone in a walking-on-eggshells family loses some degree of dignity and autonomy. You become unable to decide your own thoughts, feelings, and…

— Steven Stosny

“And if you feel that you can protect your family’s well-being, your self value will be high, even if you fail in…

— Steven Stosny

“Think about it, she’s complaining because she misses him and wants to be with him.”

— Steven Stosny

“And you are not protective of your husband by staying with him if he does not overcome his addiction to blame.”

— Steven Stosny

“Relationships can be happy with low levels of love and high levels of compassion, but not the other way around.”

— Steven Stosny

“Sometimes it seems like starving a hungry heart will make you stronger.”

— Steven Stosny

“In fact, most anger and abuse rise out of deep wells of resentment.”

— Steven Stosny

“under the surface, it’s really a core hurt that you blame on someone else.”

— Steven Stosny

“The need to love and be loved overrides comfort and even the instinct to survive.”

— Steven Stosny

“You don’t have to take it anymore: Turn your resentful, angry, or emotionally abusive relationship into a compassionate, loving one / Steven…

— Steven Stosny

“Resentful, angry, and abusive people drastically misinterpret the message of their own pain.”

— Steven Stosny

“Your love isn’t what’s hurting you; the person you love is hurting you.”

— Steven Stosny

“But the implication when you defend yourself is that you don’t care about her hurt, you care only about defending your own…

— Steven Stosny

“You can improve your experience of the situation by recognizing that your opinion does not require his validation.”

— Steven Stosny

“Most positive emotions and virtually all passion, purpose, and conviction come from creating value and staying true to it. On the other…

— Steven Stosny

“If he stops doing any of these, positive change is not likely to last.”

— Steven Stosny

“you need to cut back on social activities, including after school activities for your kids, in favor of more family dinners and…

— Steven Stosny