Abusers Quote by Margaret Cho
“I use my work as catharsis. That's often the best thing that we can do, is to allow ourselves to rage because it's so rare that we get to. We're told to forgive - I don't want to! I don't want to forgive my abuser! I don't care to and I don't like that assumption that forgiveness makes me a better person. It's not authentic to me, my feelings and what I need. But everyone has their own way.”
About This Quote
Source Interview: Podcast, 2020
She argues that expressing anger authentically can be healthier than forced forgiveness, emphasizing personal emotional truth.
In simple terms: Express anger honestly instead of forced forgiveness.
Key Takeaway
Honor your true feelings.
Themes
authenticity
emotion
forgiveness
self‑care
Mood
frustrated
defiant
reflective
Type
personal
emotional
When to use this quote
- therapy sessions
- personal journaling
- conflict resolution
- creative work
- activism
Key Concepts
psychology
personal boundaries
emotional intelligence
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you balance authentic anger with relational repair?
- When is forgiveness truly beneficial?
A Different Perspective
Forgiveness may still be necessary for healing in some relationships.
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