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Abusers Quote by Laurie Matthew

“The people who were behind my abuse were very clever. They had created something which would be so difficult to explain, so difficult to make sense of, that it would be easier to dismiss it all out of hand as the ramblings of an over-imaginative child. Many people don't want to believe that child…” quote by Laurie Matthew
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““The people who were behind my abuse were very clever. They had created something which would be so difficult to explain, so difficult to make sense of, that it would be easier to dismiss it all out of hand as the ramblings of an over-imaginative child. Many people don't want to believe that child abuse exists, or are only willing to believe that certain kinds of abuse go on. They don't want to consider that something so horrific, and yet so widespread, is taking place in their community, perhaps only a door away from them, a few steps from their lives - or even in their lives if they would only open their eyes. I know this, not just because of my own personal experience, but through my work supporting and listening to survivors and those still experiencing abuse. To ask people not only to believe in the abuse but also to take on board all the details of what I'm revealing is a big step, and it has taken me many years to make the decision to tell my story, but it has to be done. This type of abuse is ongoing, as is the culture of disbelief to make people dismiss anyone who talks about it. This needs to be challenged. The things I'm telling you in this book have been kept close to me all my life; I have always known that talking of them, telling my full story, would make some people incredulous - but it's true. It's all true. Whatever the set dressing, they were rapists and abusers - just plain and simple/ The trappings that surrounded the abuse was just a way of creating something that would allow them to do what they wanted to, but which would also allow for confusion on our parts, and devotion on the parts of the 'followers'. I think this is what many people find so hard when they are asked to believe in this sort of abuse. It all seems so fantastical, so it's easy to dismiss. I'm not asking you to believe in any of that. I'm not asking you to believe in Satan, I'm not even asking you to believe in God. I'm just asking you to accept that there are some people who will go to extraordinary lengths to cover up the facts that they are abusing children.””

Laurie Matthew

About This Quote

Source Book: Untitled memoir on abuse awareness, 2022

Abuse is hidden behind complex narratives, making it hard for society to recognize and accept its prevalence.

In simple terms: Abuse is often concealed and dismissed.

Key Takeaway

Listen, believe, and act on survivor stories.

Themes

abuse denial social responsibility

Mood

somber determined

Type

educational activist

When to use this quote

  • support groups
  • community education
  • policy advocacy

Key Concepts

psychology power dynamics culture of silence

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can communities confront uncomfortable truths?
  • What steps can individuals take to support survivors?
A Different Perspective

Changing deep‑seated disbelief is challenging and may meet resistance.

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