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“I decided early in graduate school that I needed to do something about my moods. It quickly came down to a choice between seeing a psychiatrist or buying a horse. Since almost everyone I knew was seeing a psychiatrist, and since I had an absolute belief that I should be able to handle my own…” quote by Kay Redfield Jamison
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““I decided early in graduate school that I needed to do something about my moods. It quickly came down to a choice between seeing a psychiatrist or buying a horse. Since almost everyone I knew was seeing a psychiatrist, and since I had an absolute belief that I should be able to handle my own problems, I naturally bought a horse. Not just any horse, but an unrelentingly stubborn and blindingly neurotic one, a sort of equine Woody Allen, but without the entertainment value. I had imagined, of course, a My Friend Flicka scenario: my horse would see me in the distance, wiggle his ears in eager anticipation, whinny with pleasure, canter up to my side, and nuzzle my breeches for sugar or carrots. What I got instead was a wildly anxious, frequently lame, and not terribly bright creature who was terrified of snakes, people, lizards, dogs, and other horses – in short, terrified of anything that he might reasonably be expected to encounter in life – thus causing him to rear up on his hind legs and bolt madly about in completely random directions. In the clouds-and-silver-linings department, however, whenever I rode him I was generally too terrified to be depressed, and when I was manic I had no judgment anyway, so maniacal riding was well suited to the mood. Unfortunately, it was not only a crazy decision to buy a horse, it was also stupid. I may as well have saved myself the trouble of cashing my Public Health Service fellowship checks, and fed him checks directly: besides shoeing him and boarding him – with veterinary requirements that he supplement his regular diet with a kind of horsey granola that cost more than a good pear brandy – I also had to buy him special orthopedic shoes to correct, or occasionaly correct, his ongoing problems with lameness. These shoes left Guicci and Neiman-Marcus in the dust, and, after a painfully aquired but profound understanding of why people shoot horse traders, and horses, I had to acknowledge that I was a graduate student, not Dr. Dolittle; more to the point, I was neither a Mellon nor a Rockefeller. I sold my horse, as one passes along the queen of spades, and started showing up for my classes at UCLA.””

Kay Redfield Jamison

About This Quote

The author recounts impulsively buying a problematic horse as a coping mechanism for mood swings, illustrating how avoidance can create new, unpredictable hardships.

In simple terms: Escaping mood issues led to a chaotic horse.

Key Takeaway

Avoiding mental health problems can create larger, unintended problems.

Themes

mental health coping impulsivity responsibility

Mood

wry candid

Type

personal narrative cautionary

When to use this quote

  • student stress
  • bipolar disorder management
  • impulsive purchases

Key Concepts

self‑medication avoidance behavior

Practical Applications

  • Seek professional help early
  • Evaluate long‑term consequences before impulsive decisions

Questions to Reflect On

  • What healthier alternatives could replace impulsive coping?
  • How can one assess the true cost of avoidance strategies?
A Different Perspective

Sometimes unconventional coping (e.g., animal companionship) can provide temporary relief.

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