““ So, try to have fun when you socialize. Think of it as an adventure. The results you get depend on the frame of mind you have going into it. In other words, if you tell yourself that making friends is hard work, you may actually make it more difficult. But if you tell yourself that interacting is fun, you will seem friendlier and will probably enjoy more success. Use internal coaching to reinforce this idea in your mind. Tell yourself: “I am going to this party to have fun, and I will enjoy myself.””