Marriage Quote by John Lanchester
““And now here was Arabella, making him feel worse. Maybe that was what she always did; maybe she always made him feel worse, and he'd never really noticed before. Maybe what seemed like the ordinary rough-and-tumble of marriage, combined with hard work and London, was something simpler: the fact that added to any equation, Arabella made it worse.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Money Men by John Lanchester, 2015
The narrator feels that Arabella consistently worsens his situation, suggesting that personal relationships can amplify hardships rather than alleviate them.
In simple terms: Arabella makes things seem worse.
Key Takeaway
Recognize how partners affect your perception of challenges.
Themes
relationships
marriage
perception
hardship
self-awareness
Mood
reflective
thoughtful
Type
analytical
observational
When to use this quote
- marriage counseling
- stress management
- team projects
- conflict resolution
Key Concepts
psychology
social dynamics
emotional labor
Questions to Reflect On
- How does your partner influence your view of stress?
- Can you separate personal bias from actual difficulty?
A Different Perspective
The view may overlook positive contributions Arabella might also bring.
![“I try to picture where in my body I feel the most anxious. [...] At first it makes me feel even worse and I want to open my eyes but I force myself to take a breath and just allow it to be there. Nothing happens [...] it hasn't got any better - but it hasn't got any worse either.” quote by Zoe Sugg (aka Zoella](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/e9c/zoe-sugg-aka-zoella-288468_anxiety_i-try-to-picture-where-in-my-body-i-feel_272557.jpg)
![“I don't like being away from home. That's one reason why I don't work as much as I used to [when I started my career], because so many things are on the road. I just don't want to be away from my husband, my dogs and my home. I don't sing that much any more because that also takes you on the road.” quote by Jane Powell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/07c/jane-powell-36243_away_i-don-t-like-being-away-from-home-that-s_278.jpg)
