Avoidance Quote by Harriet Lerner
“It is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is avoidance. You want to feel comfortable so you avoid doing or saying the thing that will evoke fear and other difficult emotions. Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the short run but, it will never make you less afraid.”
About This Quote
Source Book: The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner, 1985
Avoidance masks fear but never reduces it; confronting difficult emotions is necessary for true courage.
In simple terms: Avoidance hides fear but doesn't cure it.
Key Takeaway
Face discomfort to grow.
Themes
courage
self-awareness
emotional health
Mood
reflective
determined
Type
advice
motivational
When to use this quote
- personal relationships
- workplace challenges
- public speaking
- conflict resolution
Key Concepts
psychology
behavioral avoidance
Questions to Reflect On
- What fear are you avoiding?
- How could confronting it change your life?
A Different Perspective
Avoidance may provide temporary relief but can reinforce long‑term anxiety.
