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Child Quote by Gabor Maté

“External motivators for behavior such as rewards and punishments may destroy the precious internal motivation to be good, making leverage by such artificial means necessary by default. As an investment in easy parenting, trusting in a child's desire to be good for us is one of the best.” quote by Gabor Maté
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““External motivators for behavior such as rewards and punishments may destroy the precious internal motivation to be good, making leverage by such artificial means necessary by default. As an investment in easy parenting, trusting in a child's desire to be good for us is one of the best.””

Gabor Maté

About This Quote

Source Book: “The Power of Attachment”, 2020

External rewards can undermine intrinsic motivation; trust child's innate desire to be good for healthier development.

In simple terms: Rewards may hurt inner drive; trust child's goodness.

Key Takeaway

Foster autonomy and intrinsic values.

Themes

parenting motivation psychology

Mood

thoughtful supportive

Type

advice inspirational

When to use this quote

  • parent‑child interactions
  • education settings
  • team leadership

Key Concepts

intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation trust developmental psychology

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can you balance guidance with autonomy?
  • What signs show intrinsic motivation thriving?
A Different Perspective

External incentives sometimes necessary for safety.

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