Friendship Quote by Emily Giffin
““It occurs to me that she is not unique--that all women compare lives. We are aware of whose husband works more, who helps more around the house, who makes more money, who is having more sex. We compare our children, taking note of who is sleeping through the night, eating their vegetables, minding their manners, getting into the right schools. We know who keeps the best house, throws the best parties, cooks the best meals, has the best tennis game. We know who among us is the smartest, has the fewest lines around her eyes, has the best figure--whether naturally or artificially. We are aware of who works full-time, who stays at home with the kids, who manages to do it all and make it look easy, who shops and lunches while the nanny does it all. We digest it all and then discuss with our friends. Comparing and then confiding; it is what women do. The difference, I think, lies in why we do it. Are we doing it to gauge our own life and reassure ourselves that we fall within the realm of normal? Or are we being competitive, relishing others' shortcomings so that we can win, if only by default?””
About This Quote
The quote examines how women constantly compare themselves to others across various life domains, questioning whether this behavior stems from self‑validation or competitive envy.
In simple terms: Women compare lives to gauge self or compete.
Comparison can be self‑assessment or rivalry.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- discussing parenting choices with friends
- evaluating career progress among peers
- comparing household management skills
- judging physical appearance in social circles
Key Concepts
Practical Applications
- self‑reflection workshops
- media literacy training
Questions to Reflect On
- What motivates your comparisons—comfort or competition?
- How might shifting focus from others to personal growth change these dynamics?