Communication Quote by Elizabeth von Arnim
““They snatched that from me which I still held. They vied with each other in reading poetry to me in sheltered corners. They hung on my words, and laughed appreciatively every time I opened my mouth—sometimes even before I had opened it, which is conduct that easily dries up the springs of conversation. Such young men do exist, and it is a pity, because they are so bad for the older women, who give heed to their flutings at their own peril. I daresay they would have been bad for me too if I had taken them seriously, but I wasn’t quite old enough to do that, and my sole reaction to their devotion was that I was irked. I””
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Enchanted April, Elizabeth von Arnim, 1922
Older women are drawn to youthful men who flatter them, but such flattery can stifle genuine conversation and lead to regret.
In simple terms: Young men flatter older women, but it can silence real talk.
Key Takeaway
Beware of empty praise that hinders authentic dialogue.
Themes
flattery
generational dynamics
communication
regret
self-awareness
Mood
reflective
critical
thoughtful
Type
advice
philosophical
When to use this quote
- social gatherings
- romantic pursuits
- intergenerational mentorship
- literary analysis
Key Concepts
social psychology
power dynamics
authenticity
Questions to Reflect On
- How does flattery affect genuine connection?
- When should you challenge superficial praise?
A Different Perspective
Flattery may feel pleasant but can erode meaningful exchange.
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