Advice Quote by Dan Savage
“I feel like I'm a compassionate guy, but I also feel if somebody's grip on life or sanity is so tenuous that a joke in an advice column that usually is nothing but jokes pushes them over the edge, then if not me, it would have been a leaf blowing past them that did it, or something else. You almost have to feel that way, doing this.”
About This Quote
Source Column: Savage Love, Dan Savage, 2010
The speaker worries that their humor might unintentionally harm vulnerable people, feeling responsible for the impact of their words.
In simple terms: Worried jokes could hurt fragile people.
Key Takeaway
Consider the effect of humor on others.
Themes
responsibility
empathy
communication
Mood
reflective
concerned
Type
ethical
cautionary
When to use this quote
- advice columns
- stand‑up comedy
- online comments
- personal relationships
- mental health advocacy
Key Concepts
psychology
social impact
ethical humor
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you gauge when humor is safe?
- What boundaries can protect vulnerable audiences?
A Different Perspective
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