Ask questions Quote by Brené Brown
““we’re wired for story and in the absence of data we will rely on confabulations and conspiracies. When our children sense something is wrong—maybe a sick grandparent or a financial worry—or when they know something is wrong—an argument or a work crisis—they quickly jump to filling in the missing pieces of the story. And because our well-being is directly tied to their sense of safety, fear sets in and often dictates the story. It’s important that we give them as much information as is appropriate for their developmental and emotional capacity, and that we provide a safe place for them to ask questions. Emotions are contagious and when we’re stressed or anxious or afraid our children can be quickly engulfed in the same emotions. More information means less fear-based story-making.””
About This Quote
Source Speech: Interview on Parenting and Fear, 2020
Humans naturally create narratives to fill gaps, especially when anxious; providing appropriate information reduces fear‑driven stories.
In simple terms: People make up stories when scared; give facts to calm.
Key Takeaway
Share clear, age‑appropriate facts to ease anxiety.
Themes
fear
storytelling
parenting
emotions
Mood
concerned
empathetic
educational
Type
advice
psychological
parenting
When to use this quote
- family discussions
- school counseling
- media literacy
- crisis communication
Key Concepts
psychology
development
communication
Questions to Reflect On
- How can parents gauge the right amount of detail?
- What signs show a child is creating fear‑based narratives?
A Different Perspective
Over‑information can overwhelm children; balance is needed.
