Disengagement Quote by Brené Brown
““Disengagement is the issue underlying the majority of problems I see in families, schools, communities, and organizations and it takes many forms, including the ones we discussed in the “Armory” chapter. We disengage to protect ourselves from vulnerability, shame, and feeling lost and without purpose. We also disengage when we feel like the people who are leading us—our boss, our teachers, our principal, our clergy, our parents, our politicians—aren’t living up to their end of the social contract. Politics””
About This Quote
Source Book: Daring Greatly, Chapter “Armory”, 2012
People withdraw from engagement to shield themselves from vulnerability, shame, and purposelessness, especially when leaders fail to uphold social expectations.
In simple terms: Disengagement protects against pain but also blocks growth.
Key Takeaway
Cultivate authentic engagement despite discomfort.
Themes
vulnerability
leadership
community
purpose
Mood
inspiring
challenging
Type
philosophical
inspirational
When to use this quote
- workplace
- schools
- families
- community groups
Key Concepts
psychology
social contract
emotional safety
Questions to Reflect On
- What does genuine engagement look like for you?
- How can you foster safe spaces for vulnerability?
A Different Perspective
Engagement can be risky and may expose one to disappointment.
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