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William Ury

(1953) Author

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William Ury is an author.

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Born: January 1, 1953
Profession: Author

About William Ury

[Wikidata] American writer; co-founder of the International Negotiation Network... | [Wikipedia] William Ury is an American author, academic, anthropologist, and negotiation expert. He co-founded the Harvard Program on Negotiation. Additionally, he helped found the International Negotiation Network with former President Jimmy Carter. Ury is the co-author of Getting to Yes with Roger Fisher, whi

Quotes by William Ury

“He who lives not in time, but in the present, is happy. —LUDWIG VON WITTGENSTEIN”

Happy

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“Instead of attacking, focused on taking away the stick.”

Attack

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“3A trap”: we attack, we accommodate (in other words, give in), or we avoid altogether,”

Accommodate

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“INTRODUCTION THE FIRST NEGOTIATION Let him who would move the world first move himself. —SOCRATES”

Negotiation

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“How can we get what we truly want while satisfying the needs and concerns of others in our lives—family members, work colleagues,…

Family members

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“My friend Donna even likes to give humorous names to her reactive emotions such as “Freddy Fear,” “Judge Judy,” and “Anger Annie.”

Fear

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“George Bernard Shaw once observed: “People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them.”

Bernard shaw

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“Winston Churchill once quipped, “The pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” He”

Adversity

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“We can make a strong unconditional commitment to ourselves to take care of our deepest needs, no matter what other people do…

Commitment

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“have found that this journey from no to yes with myself is not a single trip, but ultimately a lifelong journey. I…

Journey

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“H. W. Longfellow, “If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each man’s life sorrow and…

History

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“The peace we can aspire to then is not a harmonious peace of the grave, nor a submissive peace of the slave,…

Courage

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“1. Put Yourself in Your Shoes. Can you notice the inner critic at work—and simply observe your thoughts and feelings without judging?…

Thoughts and feelings

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“Winston Churchill once quipped, “The pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” He went…

Adversity

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“Take Away Their Stick If the other’s reaction to our No is to hurt or threaten us, our first instinct may be…

Attack

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“The lesson . . . ,” Gilbert says, “is that our longings and our worries are both to some degree overblown because we have within…

Happiness

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“If there is a single lesson I have learned, it is this: in life, we are destined to lose many things. That…

Fullness of life

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“Whereas self-responsibility is often confused with self-blame, it is, in fact, quite the opposite. Self-blame looks backward, judging what is past: “What…

Blame

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“The balcony is a metaphor for a mental and emotional place of perspective, calm, and self-control. If life is a stage and…

Balcony

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“The bedrock desire then, is a universal one: to be loved and happy. This may seem utterly obvious, but uncovering this universal…

Desire

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“Yet, as beneficial as it can be, giving respect is often a difficult concession for people to make. In a problematic situation…

Respect

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“It is so tempting to blame those with whom we are in conflict. Who started the argument, after all, if it wasn’t…

Blame game

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“How can we get what we really want and at the same time deal with the needs of others in our lives?…

Dilemma

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“She began the conversation with Tom by acknowledging his work and then focused on the problem at hand, sticking strictly to the…

Acknowledge

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“Michel de Montaigne noted four centuries ago: “My life has been full of terrible misfortunes most of which never happened.”

Michel De Montaigne

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“He drew a circle that shut me out— Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout. But love and I had the wit to…

Circle Took

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“As Carl Rogers, one of the founders of humanistic psychology, once noted: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself as…

Paradox

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“To accept our past, it helps to reframe our stories and give a positive meaning to even the most difficult life events.…

Difficult life

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“There is a saying that goes, “If you talked to your friends the way you talk to yourself, you wouldn’t have any.”

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“How many of us can honestly say that we have plumbed the depths of our minds and hearts? How many of us…

Empathy

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“have come to the conclusion that the greatest obstacle to getting what we really want in life is not the other party,…

Adversity

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“Self-judgment may be the greatest barrier to self-understanding. If we want to understand other human beings, there is no better way than…

Accept yourself

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“3. Reframe Your Picture. Do you feel like life is in some way against you? How can you make your own happiness…

Life

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“Once the fight-or-flight reaction gets triggered, the blood flows from our brain to our limbs, and our ability to think clearly diminishes.…

Blood flow

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“5. Respect Them Even If. Are you feeling any antagonism toward anyone? What is it like to be in their shoes? Even…

Generosity

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“Perhaps the biggest obstacle is an internal resistance or no to life as it is: we regret the past, worry about the…

Adversity

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“Respect is essentially a yes to others, not to their demands, but rather to their basic humanity. In this sense, respect is…

Respect

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“am grateful for your comments. Friends are those who tell you the truth, even if it is hard to hear,” I told…

Israel

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