“Operant conditioning is not confined to deliberate training; it is one way that cats learn how to deal with whatever surroundings they… — John Bradshaw Fitness Copy Share Image
“the narcissistic personality disorder are: Grandiosity, extreme self-involvement, and lack of interest and empathy for others, in spite of the pursuit of… — John Bradshaw Jealousy Copy Share Image
“I see affect or feeling as the primary innate biological motivating mechanism, more urgent than drive deprivation and pleasure and more urgent… — John Bradshaw Motivation Copy Share Image
“The fantasy bond is an illusion of connectedness that the child creates in relation to the primary caregiver, who is shaming her.… — John Bradshaw Children Copy Share Image
It's okay to make mistakes. Mistakes are our teachers -- they help us to learn. — John Bradshaw Failure Copy Share Image
“Perhaps the greatest wound a shame-based person carries is the inability to be intimate in a relationship. This inability flows directly out… — John Bradshaw Honesty Copy Share Image
“To develop strong ego boundaries, children need parents with strong boundaries. No shame-based parent has these. Toxic shame greatly damages our boundaries.… — John Bradshaw Children Copy Share Image
“Family secrets can go back for generations. They can be about suicides, homicides, incest, abortions, addictions, public loss of face, financial disaster,… — John Bradshaw Family Copy Share Image
Evil is a source of moral intelligence in the sense that we need to learn from our shadow, from our dark side,… — John Bradshaw Be good Copy Share Image
“This transformation involves three dynamics: 1. The identification with shame-based models and the carrying of their unexpressed shame. 2. The trauma of… — John Bradshaw Change Copy Share Image
“DYNAMIC HOMEOSTASIS Dynamic homeostasis means that whenever a part of the system is out of balance, the rest of the members of… — John Bradshaw Copy Share Image
“Superachievement and perfectionism are two of the leading cover-ups for toxic shame. As paradoxical as it may seem, the straight-A student and… — John Bradshaw Shame Copy Share Image
The spiritual quest is not some added benefit to our life, something you embark on if you have the time and inclination.… — John Bradshaw Adventure Copy Share Image
“To be severed and alienated within oneself also creates a sense of unreality. One may have an all-pervasive sense of never quite… — John Bradshaw Authentic self Copy Share Image
“3. Blame. Whenever things don’t turn out as planned, blame yourself or others. Blame is another defensive cover-up for shame. Blame maintains… — John Bradshaw Freedom Copy Share Image
“Alice Miller has summed up these rules under the title “Poisonous Pedagogy” in her book For Your Own Good. These rules state:… — John Bradshaw Children Copy Share Image
“There is no way you can share your inner self because you are an object of contempt to yourself. When you are… — John Bradshaw Identity Copy Share Image
“The disowned part of self is an energy - an emotion or desire or need, that has been shamed every time it… — John Bradshaw Emotions Copy Share Image
Children need parents who model self-discipline rather than preach it. They learn from what their parents are actually willing to do; not… — John Bradshaw Children Copy Share Image
To truly be committed to a life of honesty, love and discipline, we must be willing to commit ourselves to reality. — John Bradshaw Commit Copy Share Image
When I walked out of the seminary, I was 31, but I was like a scared, frightened kid. I had no place… — John Bradshaw Clothes Copy Share Image
“Giving and receiving unconditional love is the most effective and powerful way to personal wholeness and happiness.” — John Bradshaw Giving and receiving Copy Share Image
“Pocaterra looked at blushing as the external sign of shame and believed that blushing was both the recognition of having made a… — John Bradshaw Failure Copy Share Image
