Work hard Quote by Amir Levine
““When your partner feels s/he has a secure base to fall back on (and doesn't feel the need to work hard to get close), and when you don't feel the need to distance yourself, you'll both be better able to look outward and do your own thing.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, 2010
Secure attachment lets partners act independently while staying connected, fostering growth.
In simple terms: Secure bonds enable independence and togetherness.
Key Takeaway
Foster secure attachment.
Themes
attachment
security
independence
growth
Mood
supportive
calm
Type
relationship
psychology
When to use this quote
- marriage
- friendships
- teamwork
- parenting
Key Concepts
relationship theory
psychology
developmental science
emotional intelligence
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you provide a secure base?
- What habits strengthen mutual independence?
A Different Perspective
Insecure styles can undermine security.
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