Appetite Quote by Adam Phillips
“The child..will try to make himself..independent of other people. .. Excesses of appetite are self-cures for feelings of hopelessness. ..The child [uses] ‘doubt about food to hide doubt about love.’”
About This Quote
Source Book: On Kissing and Other Essays by Adam Phillips, 1998
Children seek independence; overindulgence masks deeper despair; doubt about basic needs can conceal emotional insecurity.
In simple terms: Kids crave independence; excess hides pain; doubt about food hides love doubt.
Recognize and address underlying emotional needs.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- parenting
- therapy
- education
- self‑help
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you notice hidden despair?
- What supports help children feel secure?
Addressing surface behaviors may ignore root causes.