Tolerate Badness Quote by Adam Phillips
““Finding hate-objects may be every bit as essential as finding love-objects, but if one can tolerate some of one's badness -- meaning recognize it as yours -- then one can take some fear out of the world.””
About This Quote
Source Book: On Wanting, 2011
Recognizing one’s own flaws reduces fear and allows healthier relationships with love and hate.
In simple terms: Accepting badness eases fear.
Key Takeaway
Acknowledge personal flaws to lessen anxiety.
Themes
self‑awareness
fear
acceptance
Mood
introspective
calm
Type
philosophical
therapeutic
When to use this quote
- therapy
- personal journaling
- conflict resolution
- relationship building
Key Concepts
psychology
self‑compassion
Questions to Reflect On
- What parts of yourself do you resist acknowledging?
- How does acceptance change your emotional response?
A Different Perspective
Denial of flaws can perpetuate fear.
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