Marriage Quotes by Alain de Botton

“A spouse who gets angry at having been betrayed is evading a basic, tragic truth: that no one can be everything to…

— Alain de Botton

We are properly ready for marriage when we are strong enough to embrace a life of frustration.

— Alain de Botton

Some of the reason why we marry the wrong people is that we don't really understand ourselves.

— Alain de Botton

“A person cannot be at once a libertine and a married Romantic, however compelling both paradigms might be.”

— Alain de Botton

“For many, the point of marriage isn't so much to be in love as to stop having to think of love.”

— Alain de Botton

To a shameful extent, the charm of marriage boils down to how unpleasant it is to be alone.

— Alain de Botton

Those who divorce aren't necessarily the most unhappy, just those neatly able to believe their misery is caused by one other person.

— Alain de Botton

What is fascinating about marriage is why anyone wants to get married.

— Alain de Botton

“A marriage doesn't begin with a proposal, or even an initial meeting. It begins far earlier, when the idea of love is…

— Alain de Botton

Fantasies can be great, but we shouldn't make the wedding a fantasy, because the wedding is the gateway to married life. It…

— Alain de Botton

“We could not be fulfilled if we weren't inauthentic some of the time—inauthentic, that is, in relation to such things as our…

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I'm also interested in the modern suggestion that you can have a combination of love and sex in a marriage - which…

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I think people want to get married to end their emotional uncertainty. In a way, they want to end powerful feelings, or…

— Alain de Botton

The death of marriage has been announced so often and would seem so normal, in a sense. So what's surprising is the…

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You will often be in despair. You will sometimes think it's the worst decision in your life. That's fine. That's not a…

— Alain de Botton

“The pursuit of personal happiness and the production of healthy children are two radically contrasting projects, which love maliciously confuses us into…

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The romantic person instinctively sees marriage in terms of emotions, but what a couple actually gets up to together over a lifetime…

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“In an ideal world, marriage vows would be entirely rewritten. At the altar, a couple would speak thus: “We accept not to…

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“The benefits of a philosophy of neo-religious pessimism are nowhere more apparent than in relation to marriage, one of modern society’s most…

— Alain de Botton

Choosing a spouse and a choosing career: the two great decisions for which society refuses to set up institutional guidance.

— Alain de Botton

“Marriage: a deeply peculiar and ultimately unkind thing to inflict on anyone one claims to care for.”

— Alain de Botton

“It seems as if, in making a marriage, either the individual or the interest of the species must come off badly.”

— Alain de Botton