You can never love anyone to your own detriment. That is not love, that is possession, control, fear, or a combination of… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
Wherever your gift is, that's where it's going to be your greatest challenge. — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
When you don't show up as who you are, people fall in love with who you're not. Then when they find out… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
Every choice you make supersedes and overrides every other choice you make. — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
Truth is love's mother, and we all know it is not wise to lie to anyone's mother. — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
We go into a relationship looking for love, not realizing that we must bring love with us. We must bring a strong… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
My purpose is to teach and demonstrate what is possible. To demonstrate love of God and good. Remember what my role is… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
Forgiveness is not about the other person or what they did. Forgiveness is for YOU and about YOU. — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
I surround people in unconditional acceptance and love to such a degree that everything that is unloving about them rises to the… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
The goal of life is not to win. It is to play the game with love. The rules of the game are:… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
Many of us have a need to be right. We then set out to make ourselves right by making someone else wrong.… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
We have a tendency to always test people's love. 'I want to see how badly I have to behave before you'll leave… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
You are the love you seek. You are the companionship you desire. You are your own completion, your own wholeness. You are… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
You must be willing to give total unconditional love to everyone, under all circumstances. That means being willing to be totally responsible… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
Love is durable. It's like Teflon. ...Trust is like fine china. Secrets destroy trust. — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
You have to meet people where they are, and sometimes you have to leave them there. — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
We really don't know how to love each other because we haven't really learned to love ourselves. In many instances, not all,… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
With all things in life, we do not get what we ask for, we get what we expect. — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
Love people enough to tell them the truth and respect them enough to trust that they can handle it. — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
Everyone is always looking for their beloved. Well, why can't you be your own beloved? Fall in love with yourself. — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
For some reason,we keep forgetting some of our experience. We look back but don't bring the value forward. We bring the anger, the upset.… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
“Life would be so much easier if, when we hit a snag in a relationship, any relationship, we would stop, address it, and move… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
How do you spell peace? P-R-A-Y-E-R! Anything you believe you need is available to you through prayer. We are not talking here about a… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
We are distracted from our greatness because are greatness is what scares us. Right where you are…God is. — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
Some children do what they’re told to do; some children do what they’re told not to do; all children do what they’re parents have… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
We must each learn to feel comfortable in our own uniqueness by rising above the fear of being wrong and the aversion to being… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
I am not seeking anything but service to my creator. I do not need a house, I do not need a car, I do… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
The remedy for life's broken pieces is not classes, workshops or books. Don't try to heal the broken pieces. Just forgive. — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
When someone entrusts their heart to you they are giving you a piece of their soul. You cannot treat the soul casually. You must… — Iyanla Vanzant Copy Share Image
