“Negative feelings are more often alleviated when they are ignored rather than pampered. When you act positively in spite of negative emotions, it tends to change the emotional climate between husband and wife.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience springtime, with its openness, hope, and anticipation. On still other occasions we bask in the warmth of summer--comfortable, relaxed, enjoying life. And then comes fall with its uncertainty, negligence, and apprehension. The cycle repeats itself many times throughout… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the den and… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“I look for three things in hiring people. The first is personal integrity, the second is intelligence, and the third is a high energy… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think that in today's world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you are going to have a better relationship, you admitting your part in the dynamics is a step in the road to healing. Because if they see you modeling apology, for example, and they see you modeling love, they… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide me with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I wrote this book [ Desperate Marriages] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage.… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
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