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In her book Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion, Carol Tavris…

“In her book Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion, Carol Tavris recounts a story about a Bengali cobra that liked to bite passing villagers. One day a swami—a man who has achieved self-mastery—convinces the snake that biting is wrong. The cobra vows to stop immediately, and does. Before long, the…” quote by Susan Cain
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““In her book Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion, Carol Tavris recounts a story about a Bengali cobra that liked to bite passing villagers. One day a swami—a man who has achieved self-mastery—convinces the snake that biting is wrong. The cobra vows to stop immediately, and does. Before long, the village boys grow unafraid of the snake and start to abuse him. Battered and bloodied, the snake complains to the swami that this is what came of keeping his promise. “I told you not to bite,” said the swami,””

Susan Cain

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

A promise made under moral pressure can lead to vulnerability when the environment changes, exposing the cost of suppressing natural instincts.

In simple terms: Keeping promises can backfire if circumstances shift.

Key Takeaway

Consider the context before imposing strict moral codes.

Themes

morality vulnerability power dynamics

Mood

reflective cautionary

Type

ethical psychological

When to use this quote

  • education
  • personal relationships
  • conflict resolution
  • leadership training

Key Concepts

psychology behavioral ethics self‑control

Questions to Reflect On

  • What are the risks of forcing change without addressing underlying needs?
  • How can we protect those who conform to harmful expectations?
A Different Perspective

The swami’s advice ignored the snake’s nature, leading to exploitation.

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