I prefer listening to talking, reading to socializing ... I like to think before I speak (softly). — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
We put too much of a premium on presenting and not enough on substance and critical thinking. — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you're supposed to. — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
Opposites attract, and I think temperament is so fundamental that you end up craving someone of the opposite temperament to complete you. — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
But when the group is literally capable of changing our perceptions, and when to stand alone is to activate primitive, powerful, and… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some, it's a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
In our society, the ideal self is bold, gregarious, and comfortable in the spotlight. We like to think that we value individuality,… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
I'm not saying abolish group work - I think there's a time and a place for people to come together and exchange… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
I think the shyness one feels in childhood is often overcome with time. There are children who hide behind their parents' legs,… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
...if you can think of meetings you've attended, you can probably recall a time - plenty of times - when the opinion… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
Love is essential; gregariousness is optional. Cherish your nearest and dearest. Work with colleagues you like and respect. Scan new acquaintances for… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
I worry that there are people who are put in positions of authority because they're good talkers, but they don't have good… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
The same person who would never raise his hand in a lecture hall of two hundred people might blog to two thousand,… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you're supposed to. Stay home on New Year's Eve… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“Extroverts are more likely to take a quick-and-dirty approach to problem-solving, trading accuracy for speed, making increasing numbers of mistakes as they… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“Proverbs from the East: The wind howls, but the mountain remains still. Even though I make no special attempt to observe the discipline of… — Susan Cain Copy Share
“where we fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum. Our place on this continuum influences our choice of friends and mates, and how we make conversation,… — Susan Cain Copy Share
“I worry that there are people who are put in positions of authority because they’re good talkers, but they don’t have good ideas,” he… — Susan Cain Copy Share
“He believes, as most of us do, that venting anger lets off steam. The “catharsis hypothesis”—that aggression builds up inside us until it’s healthily… — Susan Cain Copy Share
“Soft power is not limited to moral exemplars like Mahatma Gandhi. Consider, for example, the much-ballyhooed excellence of Asians in fields like math and… — Susan Cain Copy Share
“Events like this don't give me the sense of oneness others seem to enjoy; it's always been private occasions that make me feel connected… — Susan Cain Copy Share
“Social anxiety disorder”—which essentially means pathological shyness—is now thought to afflict nearly one in five of us. The most recent version of the Diagnostic… — Susan Cain Copy Share
“So when introverts assume the observer role, as when they write novels, or contemplate unified field theory- or fall quiet at dinner parties- they’re… — Susan Cain Copy Share
“Osborn’s theory had great impact, and company leaders took up brainstorming with enthusiasm. To this day, it’s common for anyone who spends time in… — Susan Cain Copy Share
Extroversion is an enormously appealing personality style, but we've turned it into an oppressive standard to which most of us feel we must conform. — Susan Cain Copy Share
“But as the word satyagraha implies, Gandhi’s passivity was not weakness at all. It meant focusing on an ultimate goal and refusing to divert… — Susan Cain Copy Share
“The Extrovert Ideal has been documented in many studies, though this research has never been grouped under a single name. Talkative people, for example,… — Susan Cain Copy Share
“introverts prefer to work independently, and solitude can be a catalyst to innovation. As the influential psychologist Hans Eysenck once observed, introversion “concentrates the… — Susan Cain Copy Share
“People who tend to [suppress their negative emotions] regularly,” concludes Grob, “might start to see the world in a more negative light.” — Susan Cain Copy Share
